Articles tagged with: love sex and relationships

My brave new post antidepressant, post social media world

published: November, 15, 2016 Written by // Brian Finch - Founder Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Mental Health, Health, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Brian Finch

"Clearly something is shifting. A need of meaningful personal relationships has been elevated to priority level," says post-meth, post-antidepressant Brian Finch

My brave new post antidepressant, post social media world

At my chiropractor’s office as I was laying on my stomach, waiting for him to crack my back, he asked, “So do you have someone special in your life”? “Nothing that lasts longer than an hour,” I quipped. Chuckling, he said, “Hmmm, an hour - that’s impressive.” Great that he thought it was funny, but I didn't think “that” was impressive. I’d hate to tell him about all the four hour plus occasions. On the 'someone special' side of things, I haven’t tried dating anyone

Blind Date at Buddies: it’s love at first sight

published: September, 30, 2016 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Arts and Entertainment, Performances, Lifestyle, Theatre, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Bob Leahy - Publisher

Blind Date at Buddies: it’s love at first sight. Bob Leahy reviews Toronto’s Buddies in Bad Times Theatre’s latest exploration of queer romance, a very clever and funny improv that draws the audience in quite literally

Blind Date at Buddies: it’s love at first sight

Photo Image by Tanja-Tiziana Blind Date is the first Buddies' show to feature alternating male and female leads. The gay dating version opened last night and the audience couldn’t have been more engaged in a 90-minute show that just flies by. It’s clever, funny as hell and leaves you wondering at the skill of it all. This is a show that you will talk about for a long time. Here’s the premise. The show opens with a clown, Mathieu, played winningly in the gay version by the handsome Davi

A post-meth sexuality. "After five years of suppressing my sexuality I’m taking it back."

published: August, 17, 2016 Written by // Brian Finch - Founder Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, General Health, Mental Health, Sexual Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Sex and Sexuality , Brian Finch

"The revolution is here, are you with it, or are you stuck in the past?", asks PositiveLite.com's founder Brian Finch

A post-meth sexuality.

Travelling down my own road When Madonna’s Ray of Light came out, I immediately identified with “Sky Fit’s Heaven” particularly “traveling down my own road Watching the signs as I go.” If there has been one thing, it has been my ability to make my life a constant adventure. I often feel like I am on the passenger side while traveling down the journey of life. It has often have left me doing things where I wonder, “How the hell did I get here?”  I went from being 17 years o

From safer sex condom advocate to condomless sex guy... vive la revolution!

published: June, 30, 2016 Written by // Brian Finch - Founder Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Sexual Health, Opinion Pieces, Sex and Sexuality , Brian Finch

Brian Finch explains how he became "that guy who everyone wants to wag their fingers at."

From safer sex condom advocate to condomless sex guy... vive la revolution!

Condoms R Us Remember when you first used a debit card and it was great? So convenient, no more cash to carry around. Then came the ability to simply tap my debit card on a reader and presto,  my groceries had been paid for. Not one button did I have to press.  Today, if a store doesn’t have the tap feature it’s really annoying. Now I have to punch in 'ok' for the amount, what account I’m going to pay for it and then my pin number. It feels like so much work. Once a new technology is

An HIV-negative guy asks why he hears "Do you bareback?" so often

published: May, 06, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Gay Men, Sexual Health, Health, Revolving Door, Guest Authors, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

From FS Magazine, our neg guy says “I feel cautious opening up a discussion about this preference for condomless sex amongst HIV-positive men because I am not HIV-positive and do not want to contribute to the stigma people with HIV face.”

An HIV-negative guy asks why he hears

This article by Wilson Shaw @WilsonShawBeats first appeared in FS Magazine, a publication of GMFA, here.   “Do you bareback?” is a phrase I have heard so many times now I reckon it’s up there with how many times Adele’s album is being played round the world this second.  I’m a HIV-negative guy (as far as I know from my last test!) who really wants to get to the bottom of why I have noticed a pattern in my own sex life: I have encountered several men who tell me they are positive

Nine ways to survive an open relationship

published: April, 21, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Revolving Door, Lifestyle, Guest Authors, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

The UK’s FS Magazine decided to knock up a guide to help you negotiate your relationship, whether it’s already open or you’re thinking about opening it up.

Nine ways to survive an open relationship

This article by Ian Howley @ianhowley first appeared in the UK’s FS Magazine, a publication of GMFA here.  “Open relationships are not real relationships”. “Gay men are greedy”. “You can’t truly love someone if you can have sex with other men”. You name it, we’ve heard it.  Everyone seems to have an opinion about open relationships, but not many will tell you how to make them work for you. Every relationship, whether you’re open or closed, needs some groundwork. Here at

Why disclosing my HIV status is the right thing to do

FS Magazine contributor Ruaidhri O’Baoill says “I told myself that from then on, before sex came into the equation with a guy, I would tell them about my status. It was my way of allowing them to make an informed decision, my way of doing the right thing"

Why disclosing my HIV status is the right thing to do

This article, HIV+ME with Ruaidhri O’Baoill @RuaidhriOB first appeared in the UK’s FS Magazine, a publication of GMFA here. When I found out I was HIV-positive I rang one of my closest friends to tell him the news. As well as telling him about me, I also had to tell him to go and get himself on PEP. Two days prior to this my close friend and I hooked up. We were pretty drunk so it was unexpected.   We hadn’t used protection so I freaked out that I could have passed it on to him. Alth

My first serodiscordant relationship

published: April, 13, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Revolving Door, Lifestyle, Guest Authors, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Brian Ledford aka “A Marine with HIV“ falls in love with an HIV-negative guy – and it’s working. Says Brian “We all deserve to be happy in our lives and nothing including HIV should stop us from finding it.”

My first serodiscordant relationship

Not too long ago I started talking to this really awesome guy on the social media app. Moovz.  If you do not know about this app, it is for the LGBTQ community.  I was nervous as hell when he was actually interested in me.  We talked back and forth for a while and I finally decided before we even went on our first date to ask him if he knew about my status.  Now usually in the past when a guy has found out about my HIV status, they typically run in the other direction and I never hear from

Identity of TC Pomeroy, our sex columnist, unveiled….

published: March, 10, 2016 Written by // Matt Levine Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Matt Levine

“You’re only as sick as your secrets” says an out-of-the closet PositiveLite.com columnist Matt Levine

Identity of TC Pomeroy, our sex columnist, unveiled….

The big reveal Until recently I thought of myself as damaged goods. I’m 54, been out of the closet since I was 17 and yet have only enjoyed sex about as many times as the number of fingers on my hand.    This is the secret that spawned my alias, the pseudonym of a mostly well adjusted, extremely fit and healthy HIV-positive gay man who can’t get laid - or maybe just loves to complain about it.  I decided to write anonymously because at the age of 54 my sexual and romantic life were c

When things get R-rated - long-term commitment.

published: February, 22, 2016 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Jason Cole, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Monogamy, open, polyamory, other - there are lots of relationship styles. But Jason R Cole asks “are HIVers afraid of being in a committed, long-term relationship? If so, why?”

When things get R-rated - long-term commitment.

"Long term commitment." It is a frightening phrase for many queers. I count myself as one of them, once upon a time.  Years ago, I was afraid of what commitment symbolized: being bound to someone else, with little or no escape. You see, back in my early 20s I was an expert escape artist when it came to relationships - although, I did end up dragging my lovers down with a whole lot of drama and self-destructive behaviour. I didn’t know better at the time.  In my mid-20s, I was married to

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