Articles tagged with: dating HIV-positive gay men

An HIV-negative guy asks why he hears "Do you bareback?" so often

published: May, 06, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Gay Men, Sexual Health, Health, Revolving Door, Guest Authors, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

From FS Magazine, our neg guy says “I feel cautious opening up a discussion about this preference for condomless sex amongst HIV-positive men because I am not HIV-positive and do not want to contribute to the stigma people with HIV face.”

An HIV-negative guy asks why he hears

This article by Wilson Shaw @WilsonShawBeats first appeared in FS Magazine, a publication of GMFA, here.   “Do you bareback?” is a phrase I have heard so many times now I reckon it’s up there with how many times Adele’s album is being played round the world this second.  I’m a HIV-negative guy (as far as I know from my last test!) who really wants to get to the bottom of why I have noticed a pattern in my own sex life: I have encountered several men who tell me they are positive

Why disclosing my HIV status is the right thing to do

FS Magazine contributor Ruaidhri O’Baoill says “I told myself that from then on, before sex came into the equation with a guy, I would tell them about my status. It was my way of allowing them to make an informed decision, my way of doing the right thing"

Why disclosing my HIV status is the right thing to do

This article, HIV+ME with Ruaidhri O’Baoill @RuaidhriOB first appeared in the UK’s FS Magazine, a publication of GMFA here. When I found out I was HIV-positive I rang one of my closest friends to tell him the news. As well as telling him about me, I also had to tell him to go and get himself on PEP. Two days prior to this my close friend and I hooked up. We were pretty drunk so it was unexpected.   We hadn’t used protection so I freaked out that I could have passed it on to him. Alth

Dating, sex and HIV

published: January, 26, 2016 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Toronto guy Josh, diagnosed in 2014, has decided “I’m happier staying away from dating and I’m happier staying away from sex.”

Dating, sex and HIV

Hoo boy – this is going to be fun to write. I say that because I’m writing on a rather personal topic, and I know for a fact that close friends and a colleague have this link. So… enjoy this one, friends!  On June 9, 2014, I received my HIV diagnosis. From that day forward, I have been single and I have been abstinent. Both of these things have been choices I’ve made for my own well-being and at first, the abstinence decision was made from a place of fear – fear of infecting someon

Scruff

published: December, 14, 2015 Written by // Brian Finch - Founder Categories // Aging, Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Brian Finch

The irrepressible Brian Finch took a year off sex. Now he says "getting laid is great, I really should do it more often and not wait a year."

Scruff

Adult language I have taken my own sexual smite  - Hebrew for the seventh year sabbatical of farming in Israel. In this case I’ve been the barren field for probably little more than a year. But recently I decided that maybe it was time to end this self-imposed exile from the land of cock.  Technically I broke this year of no sex (I never thought I’d ever be able to make that claim) with this guy I used to see off and on. It seemed easy enough - just send a message and in a couple of ho

Dear Alex

published: December, 07, 2015 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific

Toronto guy Josh pens a letter to his ex, the source of his HIV infection – and breaks free in the process

Dear Alex

A friend of mine recently shared this article from 2014 on Facebook, in which the author writes a letter to their ex-partner. The premise got stuck in my head all day today, and I got to thinking what I would want to say to Alex if I had one more chance; because now there are no more phone calls, no more emails… Contact has finally ceased. I know it’s a good thing for my own mental health, but it’s also the first time the void has been there, and it’s… odd. I feel a little lost. That

Disaster date

published: November, 18, 2015 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific

It’s not always about HIV; sometimes dates are just bad, period. Our Toronto guy Josh re-enters the dating pool and finds himself on one such disaster.

Disaster date

After a long hiatus, I re-entered the dating world. It’s 2015, so obviously I resorted to Tinder and OKCupid. I set up my profile, started swiping and waited to see what happened.  Someone messaged me, and seemed nice. We chatted for a bit before we swapped numbers and made plans to have dinner. I did not disclose my status, because I do not sleep with someone on the first date (sorry, TMI) and while I believe in transparency, given that it was just a casual date, I didn’t feel it was ne

Tis’ the season

published: November, 12, 2015 Categories // Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

Steven Hobé tells the story of his life with HIV. Part five sees him, not long after diagnosis, disclosing his status to a potential partner. What was the reaction? Read on.

Tis’ the season

It’s now mid-November and time for Toronto’s annual Santa Claus Parade. With that jolly “Ho Ho Ho”, it was a festive nod to the commencement of the Christmas shopping frenzy. All hail to the blow up hanging Santas, oversized Christmas bobbles, and the incessant piped-in choir music with the treble turned up way too high everywhere you turn!  OK, I admit I have a bitter sweet relationship with this time of year. When I was growing up in England, like clockwork, on the 24th, I would ki

I’m not ready

published: August, 26, 2015 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific

Toronto’s Josh decides he’s not yet ready to get back in to the dating pool.

I’m not ready

This weekend, I went away with a group of friends. It was a lovely, relaxing and much needed weekend. Sure, I was feeling a little under the weather (a little bit of a summer cold that manifested itself as dizziness on Thursday and then a mildly sore throat on Friday) but I definitely needed the time away.  I’ve said in the past that I haven’t really thought about dating much, and when I have that I’ve come to the conclusion that I think I’ll be more happier just doing my own thing.

My anniversary

published: August, 10, 2015 Written by // Patrick Italo Ettenes Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Patrick Italo Ettenes

Not settling for second best, Patrick Ettenes on the relationship insecurities that can come with living with HIV – and how to be rid of them

My anniversary

August is a memorable month for me. On the 17th I am reminded that this is the day that I sat with a stranger and was told that my life will be different for the rest of my life. I was alone and 11 years later I will sit alone and face another reminder that I’m single and still havw a battle ahead of me. But it’s not all bad. I just had a reminder that I am better off single and that the issues I face are my own and not anyone else's. So on 17th August I will have a lovely meal for one

Resilient

published: June, 30, 2015 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

Toronto's Josh with more fall-out from his broken relationship that saw him write the powerful three-part series here “Abuse has Many Forms”.

Resilient

Earlier this week I had a call from a phone number that I didn’t recognize; the phone number was coming from the United States, and given that I know only one person who lives there (and not from the state that was coming up in the caller ID), I ignored it. After all, I’ve had unknown callers before and regretted answering the phone.  A few minutes after the call was ignored, I had a notification for a voicemail. Figuring I needed to clear out a spam voicemail from “Mariott Hotels”,

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