Opinion Pieces

The power of "no"

published: January, 22, 2018 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Health, Revolving Door, Legal, Guest Authors, Lifestyle, Media, Opinion Pieces, Sex and Sexuality

From FS Magazine, Hadley Stewart: "Despite having consented to sex, we don’t necessarily make it clear what we’re consenting to. How able do you feel to negotiate in the bedroom?"

The power of

If, like me, you’ve never sat down and thought about the term ‘consent’, you’d be forgiven for thinking that it doesn’t really apply to you. Often we associate the term with the law, meaning that it’s easy to think it’s something that doesn’t form part of our lives unless we’ve been the victim of a crime. A sexual assault, for instance, is often paired up with the notion of consent. So does that mean we’ve never consented to anything or used our power of consent? Probably

So you tested positive for HIV

published: January, 19, 2018 Written by // Kimutai Kemboi, Categories // Activism, Social Media, African, Caribbean and Black, As Prevention , Kimutai Kemboi, General Health, Newly Diagnosed, Mental Health, Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, Health, Sexual Health, International , Treatment, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces

Kimutai Kemboi of Kenya offers his best advice for those newly diagnosed with HIV.

So you tested positive for HIV

So you tested for HIV a few hours, days, weeks, months or years ago and you found out that you are HIV-positive. I know that was the last thing you expected, yet you must have been worried since that day you messed up somewhere or unwillingly/unknowingly got involved in a mess. Don't even burden yourself with thinking of that; it is absolutely not important. What is important is what you do after getting the facts. Immediately you saw two lines appearing in that testing kit, your mind went i

The Hierarchy of HIV

published: January, 18, 2018 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Yoder

Michael Yoder: "We pay a lot of lip service to the equality of people living with HIV, but a lot of times we don't actually practice that vision."

The Hierarchy of HIV

“Fashion is a form of ugliness so intolerable that we have to alter it every six months.” Oscar Wilde I may catch shit for this article, and it's clearly my own personal thoughts and observations, but I believe there's a hierarchy in the HIV "community" and especially among gay men. This is me at my cynical worst, so take that as a warning... We pay a lot of lip service to the equality of people living with HIV, but a lot of times we don't actually practice that vision. I read an articl

Happy new year. Being marked by Big City Living

published: January, 17, 2018 Written by // Dennis Battler Categories // Social Media, Aging, Gay Men, Health, Pets, Spirituality, Dennis Battler, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces

Toronto poz guy Dennis Battler: 'Hi Robert To bring you up to date I've attached a "summary" of sorts ... Possibly this review sent to a friend could be manipulated into an article. Today's word is "painting." Happy new year.

Happy new year. Being marked by Big City Living

Hello Sheila, To respond to your email thoroughly (I believe you appreciate detail as much as I) I’m sending along a reply I wrote to Eric whom I worked with at Of Things Past. Eric also had a Whippet, Hudson, whom Shanti visited with. One day a week for a year when I set up the Rosedale store, Hudson and Shanti were canine staples there with many fans. Eric kindly sent this email: “Greetings Dennis. I wanted to reach out and send along well wishes for the holidays.  I know how challen

U=U laggards draw fire from the community

published: January, 16, 2018 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // African, Caribbean and Black, Activism, Social Media, Gay Men, As Prevention , Current Affairs, Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, Women, Health, Treatment, Media, Opinion Pieces, Bob Leahy - Publisher

The Global U=U picture is good, but community activists are stepping up the heat on organizations which have been slow to embrace it. Today the spotlight is on Greater than AIDS, GNP+ and in Canada, the Ontario AIDS Network. Bob Leahy reports.

U=U laggards draw fire from the community

If 2017 was a good year for many people living with HIV, it was for a simple, three character slogan that seemed to be everywhere. POZ.com, in awarding Undetectable equals Untransmittable, or U=U, the campaign of the year described it as “perhaps the most discussed and rapidly shared message to hit the HIV arena in years”. The Washington Post called it  “the campaign credited with beginning to change public perception of HIV transmissibility.” The campaign’s reach In Canada has b

When HIV is not your only battle

published: January, 08, 2018 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Aging, Social Media, Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, International , Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Félix Garmendía

New York guy Félix Garmendía: "I will not let fear stop me again from living my life."

When HIV is not your only battle

I wonder if I will finish this piece. Have you ever wondered when you are sad, if writing about it will help you find peace? I have, and it has been my experience that spending the time, effort and contemplation to express these feelings definitely helps. I’m not unfamiliar with sadness. Like every person with a chronic illness, I have my long dark nights when I feel like I’m wandering around, lost, in the dark. I am bipolar, so sadness can be a bit difficult to battle. Like I have ment

The privileged amongst us

published: January, 02, 2018 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // Social Media, Activism, Gay Men, As Prevention , Current Affairs, Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, Health, International , Treatment, Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces, Bob Leahy - Publisher

Bob Leahy on the tricky business of acknowledging privilege - how it works both for and against those who have it.

The privileged amongst us

Privilege; Definition a special right, advantage, or immunity granted or available only to a particular person or group of people. I’m a lucky person. I get to go on vacations. I also take a lot of photos while I’m away, not on an expensive camera now, but on my iPhone. It’s become a habit to share some of them on Facebook while I’m away. I also go to quite a few HIV-related conferences, some in Canada, some further away. Again I take photos and post them on Facebook. I sometimes fe

Criminalizing HIV Non-Disclosure, Exposure, and Transmission

published: December, 20, 2017 Written by // Isaac D. Joseph Categories // Activism, Social Media, Isaac D. Joseph, International , Legal, Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces

Isaac D. Joseph gives his assessment of the current state of HIV criminalization in the United States.

Criminalizing HIV Non-Disclosure, Exposure, and Transmission

Imagine going on an interview, a date, or just meeting someone for the first time and you introduce yourself as such, “Hello, my name is Isaac Joseph and I am HIV positive.” That would be a pretty awkward way to start off a conversation, wouldn’t you think? Today in the world of HIV, disclosure is a topic that has been on the lips of many people living with and without HIV, especially with the heightened celebrity scandals involving HIV disclosure in recent years. Some people believe th

No shame in being hIV-positive. Shame is naive!

published: December, 18, 2017 Written by // Kimutai Kemboi, Categories // African, Caribbean and Black, Activism, Social Media, As Prevention , Youth, Kimutai Kemboi, Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, Mental Health, Health, International , Treatment, Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces

From Kenya, Kimutai Kemboi de-stigmatizes taking medication: "I need to tame HIV and be healthy and strong just like you."

No shame in being hIV-positive. Shame is naive!

“Shame on you for having flu!' This is a statement that would shut me up. I would stop talking simply because it would be shameful. Now, flu is an infection and so is HIV but no one has ever condemned a person with flu as compared to persons living with HIV! I’m not saying we should get infected with HIV but we should stop being naive and talking ill about people living with HIV any more than we do when people have other infections! I am happy not for having HIV but for knowing I am HI

Paternalism in medicine, social work and HIV care

published: December, 14, 2017 Written by // T.J. Miller Categories // Social Media, Activism, African, Caribbean and Black, Gay Men, As Prevention , T.J. Miller, Current Affairs, Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, Women, Health, International , Treatment, Media, Opinion Pieces

T.J. Miller: "... things are drastically different this time. There is an anger that I haven’t seen since the early days of the AIDS crisis..."

Paternalism in medicine, social work and HIV care

By definition, paternalism is an action performed with the intent of promoting the good of others, but occurring against their will or without their consent. In medicine, it refers to acts of authority by the physician in directing care and distribution of resources to patients (definition courtesy of the American Medical Association-Journal of Medical Ethics, July 2012 edition). In the setting of Social Work, the National Association of Social Workers Code of Ethics states the following:

Stigma!

published: December, 13, 2017 Written by // Kimutai Kemboi, Categories // Social Media, Activism, African, Caribbean and Black, Kimutai Kemboi, Youth, General Health, Health, International , Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces

Kenya's Kimutai Kemboi on the many effects of HIV stigma on the lives of people living with HIV..

Stigma!

It is a six letter word but capable of taking someone to their grave, thus it should be avoided by all costs! No one gains or benefits from discriminating against a colleague because of his/her status. It is a high time we stop being wild and have human character, love and care unconditionally. It is really painful to push someone to the grave when you are still in a position to hold his hand! I am sharing this from a life experience of what I initially went through before finding the stren

¡Feliz Navidad!

published: December, 07, 2017 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Social Media, Aging, Gay Men, Spirituality, International , Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Félix Garmendía

From New York, Félix Garmendía: "Every sundown is counted, every smile is felt deeply and appreciated, every new day is a gift full of life..."

¡Feliz Navidad!

As a secular humanist, I have no particular spiritual connection to Christmas, but I do enjoy very much the atmosphere that surrounds the whole phenomenon of Christmas every year (“don we now our GAY apparel….”). In my neighborhood, Washington Heights in upper Manhattan, the main commercial street gets decorated with beautiful lights everywhere. It’s a playground of traditional consumerism and yet also a festive and exciting time for many, many people -- even jaded New Yorkers. I re

Lalalala...I can't hear you!

published: December, 05, 2017 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Social Media, Aging, Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Yoder

Michael Yoder: "When we keep closing doors we don't learn. When we constantly argue we risk pissing into the wind..."

Lalalala...I can't hear you!

"Hear no evil. See no evil. Speak no evil." Japanese proverb. The Three Wise Monkeys I have to admit that I tend to look for only those opinions and ideas that support my own personal belief system. Most notably anything political. I'm left-leaning and so listening to people who are also left-leaning is my preference. I shut out anything that doesn't fit my idea of the world. I think this is a human trait. I believe that we all, from whatever stripes we wear, look for only those things that

It’s time to retire Canada’s AIDS epidemic

published: December, 01, 2017 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Social Media, CATIE, As Prevention , General Health, Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, Mental Health, Research, Health, CATIE - HIV and Hep C Info Resource, Revolving Door, Treatment, Guest Authors, Media, Opinion Pieces

For World AIDS Day 2017, PositiveLite.com is proud to present this guest editorial by CATIE Executive Director, Laurie Edmiston.

It’s time to retire Canada’s AIDS epidemic

Having turned 60 two months ago, I know there’s nothing quite like a milestone birthday to force you to get serious about your priorities and your future. The HIV response is facing our own wake-up call this December 1 as we mark the 30thWorld AIDS Day – a milestone I never imagined we would reach when I started working in HIV, 30 years ago. I have spent more than half of my life working in the HIV response, and while our goals have remained unchanged – reducing HIV infections and kee

How I want to be remembered when I go

published: December, 01, 2017 Written by // Isaac D. Joseph Categories // African, Caribbean and Black, Social Media, Gay Men, Youth, Isaac D. Joseph, International , Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces

Isaac D. Joseph: "No one living with HIV wants to be remembered as the person who died of AIDS or AIDS-related illness."

How I want to be remembered when I go

This article is dedicated to the millions that we have lost to AIDS. Today, World AIDS Day, December 1, 2017, we remember you for the life you lived and not the virus you contracted.  I am sure that time and time again the thought of death has crossed the minds of people like me, people living with HIV. Most find it taboo to talk about their imminent death while others who feel that it is only human nature to think about death and the afterlife converse and plan out funerals without any ce

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