Michael Bouldin

Michael Bouldin

Michael was born in California in 1970 – actually, hatched from an egg – and spent the next twenty years of his life hopping across the globe, wherever America saw fit to station troops for some inexplicable reason. In what was likely a fit of absent-mindedness, he acquired a Masters in Communications, Political Science and Comparative Literature from the University of Mainz in West Germany, probably because it was roughly equidistant to the clubs of Paris, London and Berlin. Along the way, he modeled, tended bar, wrote copy, ran an ad agency, got bored, and moved to New York City. He remains there today, making a living as a wordsmith and creative brain, all the while making sure nobody ever sees that portrait in the attic. 

Oh, and before he partnered up, he probably slept with your boyfriend. 

 

 

What's at stake

published: July, 14, 2017 Written by // Michael Bouldin Categories // Social Media, Activism, Gay Men, Current Affairs, Health, International , Legal, Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces, Michael Bouldin

"What will be considerably more difficult to restore is something ineffable, intangible, that rests at the heart of America not as a place but as an idea." From NYC, Michael Bouldin on the potential impact of the Trump debacle.

What's at stake

The U.S. Capitol – the People's House Forget for a moment, if you can, about the daily assault on our civil rights as Americans. Forget, if you can, that this administration wants to take healthcare away from twenty-four million of our fellow Americans. Forget, if you can, the trillion dollar tax cut giveaway to the richest and most powerful among us.  Because these things we can claw back in time, in fact, I’m certain we will, and that is provided many of these atrocities even become l

Just call it what it is: Trump colluded – and is colluding –with a hostile foreign power: Russia.

published: March, 28, 2017 Written by // Michael Bouldin Categories // Social Media, Activism, Current Affairs, International , Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Bouldin

Michael Bouldin in NYC: "Donald Trump is in some form we don’t know yet a Russian asset."

Just call it what it is: Trump colluded – and is colluding –with a hostile foreign power: Russia.

This is really a basic case of Occam’s Razor: why exactly is every single top administration or Trump campaign member lying about contacts to Russia before and after the election? Most likely because they have something to hide, and what might that be? Why did the now-Attorney General of the United States give false and misleading statements under oath pertaining to his interactions with Russian officials? What credible explanation is there for that? Jeff Sessions is a former Senator and

Should gays defend Milo? No.

published: February, 22, 2017 Written by // Michael Bouldin Categories // Social Media, African, Caribbean and Black, Arts and Entertainment, Gay Men, Performances, Women, International , Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces, Michael Bouldin

Michael Bouldin on Milo: "... sexist, transphobic, racist, pick what you wish from the long catalogue of human cruelties, he will likely embrace it this very instant, already has, or will at some future time of greater convenience."

Should gays defend Milo? No.

The question arises – I suppose – whether Milo should be able to rely on the good offices of Gay, Inc℠ or of the broader velvet mafia in media and culture. We do tend to defend our own, even if only for the reason that they are indeed our own. Do we, more specifically gay white men, do so for conservatives as reliably as for liberals? I propose that this is the wrong question to ask. My guess would be that Milo won’t be afforded the warm embrace of Ellen or Anderson Cooper, let al

Trump as AIDS: How To Survive A Plague.

published: January, 10, 2017 Written by // Michael Bouldin Categories // Social Media, Activism, Gay Men, Current Affairs, International , Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Bouldin

Michael Bouldin shares a blueprint for surviving HIV and Donald J. Trump's opportunistic infection of public office

Trump as AIDS: How To Survive A Plague.

Bouldin sees Trump as an opportunistic infection of the US political system Last week, I went to a reading and book signing at Manhattan’s Roosevelt House, a townhouse on the Upper East Side that today belongs to the City University of New York but was once the Manhattan residence of Franklin and Eleanor Roosevelt.  The reading was of How To Survive A Plague, the monograph about the AIDS crisis authored by David France, who also directed the Oscar-nominated documentary of the same name.

Notes on the American election:

published: October, 27, 2016 Written by // Michael Bouldin Categories // Social Media, Community Events, Gay Men, Current Affairs, Upcoming Events, International , Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Bouldin

Explaining ourselves to the rest of the world. ."Donald Trump will lose for one reason: America with all its faults is better than he is," says New York's Michael Bouldin

Notes on the American election:

It’s probably no overstatement to say that every four years, the fate of the planet hinges on the choice we Americans make at the ballot box. In consequence, I feel it would behoove us to explain ourselves to the rest of the world. This time around, the contest is between a former Secretary of State, United States Senator and First Lady of the United States on the one hand, and an orange-faced woman-groping bigoted charlatan on the other. One might think that this is not a choice so much as

Pride after Orlando

published: July, 05, 2016 Written by // Michael Bouldin Categories // Social Media, Activism, Gay Men, Current Affairs, International , Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Bouldin

"A lone madman? Please, like the last one or the one before him?" asks New York City's remarkable Michael Bouldin

Pride after Orlando

The funerals have been held. The families and survivors will likely mourn every day they remain alive that those they love do not. Grief perhaps gets easier over time, I don’t know, I do know it never goes away. It’s the stain that becomes part of the fabric to a point where you might think it had always been there, can’t remember a time when it wasn’t. Welcome to America, a nation distinguished among the many butchers of this world; distinguished in that our butchers have skilled lobb

Revolutions

published: January, 20, 2016 Written by // Michael Bouldin Categories // Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Michael Bouldin

New York City's Michael Bouldin says the new year is a time not for resolutions but for revolution – and he’s changing everything up.

Revolutions

There’s a certain dreary sameness to the practice; every year seemingly, we promise our future self a fitter, faster, stronger, richer, happier state of being, one more worthy of love or success or some other matter of fancy. Certainly worthier of whichever bounty might justly accrue to present self – that flabby thing over there in the corner, wretchedly unloved – unlovable? – alone and more than slightly drunk. Bad present self, get your act together already. Right?  Yeah, probably

Giving thanks

published: December, 08, 2015 Written by // Michael Bouldin Categories // Opinion Pieces, Michael Bouldin

Michael Bouldin on American Thanksgiving “Whatever our circumstances, we all share in this one bond: we have something, no matter how small it may be, to be thankful for.”

Giving thanks

It’s that time of year again – at least it is here Stateside – when the fortunate among us can barely waddle from couch to refrigerator without mechanical assistance or the aid of kind strangers. We call it Thanksgiving, and with some irony, this is the one day on the calendar when the entire country actually does what President Barack Obama would have us do: take a breather and be nice to each other.  Welcome to the United States, have a great time, grab a seat, it’s Genocide Apprec

Starting over

published: October, 01, 2015 Written by // Michael Bouldin Categories // Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Michael Bouldin

He’s back. The irrepressible Michael Bouldin leaves a job that wasn’t working behind - and heads for law school

Starting over

Hey there; it’s been a while. I’m good, thanks, hope you are too. Oh yeah, I did notice the new haircut. Um. Honey, sorry, it needs to go. No, it doesn’t matter that something died on your head and you can’t bear to disturb its rest, it’s awful and you, my friend, mistake the at best debatable fashion value of Donald Trump. He’s not meant to be emulated.   But enough about you, let’s talk about me. Far more interesting, as I’m sure you’ll agree. Thing is, I’ve decided to

HIV after Armageddon; a Jeremiad

published: January, 21, 2015 Written by // Michael Bouldin Categories // Activism, Gay Men, Health, Sexual Health, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Michael Bouldin

Michael Bouldin frowns on invoking our history "Concerned but misguided gay men of a certain age hear whatever the latest HIV infection rates are, and they pull the AIDS Crisis Card."

HIV after Armageddon; a Jeremiad

Every once in a while you read something and think “Fuck me, why didn’t I write that?”  Well, at least I do. There’s no shame in that, though some professional writers would disagree – we are after all, most of us and at least in our own minds, the most brilliant Tamer of Words to tread an unworthy earth since Homer sang the Iliad. Texts flow from our fingers shining with all the lustre of diamonds, gleaming tapestries of art destined for slabs of marble.  Maybe sometimes. That s

Warriors of the wasteland

published: November, 10, 2014 Written by // Michael Bouldin Categories // Gay Men, Arts and Entertainment, Music, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Michael Bouldin

Michael Bouldin: the road from Frankie’s Pleasuredome to rubbers to PrEP

Warriors of the wasteland

Playing isn't paying so work is what I'm saying  Working for the world go round The battle cry don't mess with me I've traveled the world for eternity   Warriors of the wasteland Sailboats of ice on desert sands Warriors of the wasteland  Frankie Goes To Hollywood, “Warriors of the Wasteland”, (Liverpool)  The year was 1984. Even as the great Death gained malignant steam from hundreds to thousands of dead towards numbers uncountable, grief beyond measure or understanding, some

www.dot.awesome – meet the digital red ribbon

published: October, 02, 2014 Written by // Michael Bouldin Categories // Social Media, Fundraisers, Current Affairs, Launches, Living with HIV, Michael Bouldin

Michael Bouldin on what's behind the new kid on the block, dothiv, a domain name that donates money to AIDS charities with every click you make

www.dot.awesome – meet the digital red ribbon

I don’t normally mix my business/activism/whatever interests with my writing proclivities; it’s unfair to my publisher, and Bob Leahy’s angelic patience is better tried with some smut-depravity first-person account of the flavor I hope and pray my mom, dad, husband, evil mother-in-law will never read. Writing about work is an unseemly practice in my book at least. Buy an ad already, people.  But as they say, no rule without exceptions. Ladies and gentlemen, please meet my not-boss, Car

The AIDS bores

published: August, 12, 2014 Written by // Michael Bouldin Categories // Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Michael Bouldin

Michael Bouldin is putting HIV in its place. Five years after diagnosis he says “Sure, HIV is an interesting subject. It’s not however the only topic of conversation under heaven and very certainly not the only one I’m interested in.”

The AIDS bores

August 5th, 2014 was the fifth anniversary of my AIDS diagnosis.  That’s right, AIDS. Not some wimpy HIV+ diagnosis made in otherwise perfect health, with T-cells in their hundreds romping merrily around chiseled muscles, under well-tanned skin glowing with health, exfoliated and moisturized into a fair semblance of the angelic or divine.  Nope, four little T-cells lonely in the too-vast milliliter of blood they shared with somewhat over a million boorish copies of the unwelcome viral g

The little jockstrap that could

published: July, 17, 2014 Categories // Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Michael Bouldin

Michael Bouldin and Pride in NYC - an occasion "to see whether or not I can still pull off the being-almost-naked-in-public thing at the ripe age of forty-four."

The little jockstrap that could

June is LGBT Pride Month in America (now even by Presidential decree), and though we in New York City may no longer have acceptable dance clubs, affordable places to live or identifiably, unambiguously gay neighborhoods – all destroyed in the Great Baby Stroller Massacre of recent memory – we do our liquor-sodden, drugged-out best to live up to the challenge.  It is after all a full month. Endless days and nights stretching into the leaden summer heat with no end in sight. Not at all dif

As the paradigm crumbles

published: May, 14, 2014 Written by // Michael Bouldin Categories // As Prevention , Gay Men, Sexual Health, Health, Treatment, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Michael Bouldin

Michael Bouldin says if PreP was around back then he wouldn’t be positive. And, he says, If there is a moral choice other than to give the younger generation of gay men a tool to prevent infection, and by extension to love without fear, he doesn’t see it.

As the paradigm crumbles

New York City, May 2014  It wasn’t all that long ago, a bit over a decade or so, that I acted on an impulse long in the making. To this day, it horrifies people.  The setting was New York City’s hottest gay after hours sex party. In a space the size of a Manhattan apartment filled with shadowy mazes, leather platforms, some couches and a sling or two, a cast of maybe a hundred or so men in varying states of arousal and undress, all encased in walls of dull black, such was the undergrou

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