Articles tagged with: New York

¡Feliz Navidad!

published: December, 07, 2017 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Aging, Social Media, Gay Men, International , Spirituality, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Félix Garmendía

From New York, Félix Garmendía: "Every sundown is counted, every smile is felt deeply and appreciated, every new day is a gift full of life..."

¡Feliz Navidad!

As a secular humanist, I have no particular spiritual connection to Christmas, but I do enjoy very much the atmosphere that surrounds the whole phenomenon of Christmas every year (“don we now our GAY apparel….”). In my neighborhood, Washington Heights in upper Manhattan, the main commercial street gets decorated with beautiful lights everywhere. It’s a playground of traditional consumerism and yet also a festive and exciting time for many, many people -- even jaded New Yorkers. I re

How I define myself

published: October, 31, 2017 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Félix Garmendía

New York guy Félix Garmendía: "The way we relate or identify to another human being, should always include a kind and proper choice of words."

How I define myself

There are many ways to refer to somebody when you can’t remember their name or you might be identifying someone in a picture. We all have defined ourselves by different circumstances in life. Some of those definitions are temporary, others like race, sexual orientation and personal beliefs seem to be more lasting in most people. Have you ever wondered what would be your answer if somebody asks you out of the specific context of a conversation a simple 3 word question? – “What are you”?

An atheist wonders about praying

published: September, 28, 2017 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Aging, Social Media, Gay Men, International , Spirituality, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Félix Garmendía

New York guy Félix Garmendía: "One of the things I have learned to understand is the ultimate rule of kindness."

An atheist wonders about praying

As an HIV-positive man who happens to be wheelchair bound, I have been told recently a lot by friends that they are praying for me. Those who are aware of the fact that I am a non believer, immediately follow their kind gesture with an apology like, “I know you are an atheist but...” Atheism is not a religion and I call myself a non believer of the prejudicial, judgmental, bigoted idea of “God”. I have encountered since I was a child, many situations and postures, many of them conf

Life is a puzzle and death is its final piece.

published: June, 29, 2017 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Aging, Social Media, Gay Men, Mental Health, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces, Félix Garmendía

New York guy Félix Garmendía: "Every day we have left is one more day to dare ourselves to love and be loved."

Life is a puzzle and death is its final piece.

HIV has taught me several things. I actually believe that HIV changed my life forever with a mix of sad and beautiful memories of fighting for my life, after receiving a “death sentence” back in the late 1980s. I mean this literally, I was told over the phone that I had, at the most “6 months to a year to live”. Getting a death sentence is probably one of the most terrifying things I have ever confronted so far. The bleak circumstances surrounding my death sentence were very poignan

To the healing hands of my caregiver

published: June, 01, 2017 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Félix Garmendía

Félix Garmendía: "Thank you to all the hidden heroes behind the scenes, thank you to all that give the best they have to enhance the quality of life for those of us LIVING with a degenerative disease."

To the healing hands of my caregiver

As a long-term HIV survivor, I have realized that it’s becoming increasingly less likely that HIV will kill me. I just came from my regular doctor checkup last week. After 30 years carrying HIV, I am undetectable and have 937 T cells. I can remember when 937 T cells were enough for four people. I can’t help but think about those who didn’t make it. I am also reminded of the countless family members who lost precious loved ones. We were not allowed to have “spouses” then. The best ph

Why cities hold the key to fighting AIDS

published: June, 22, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // As Prevention , Health, Revolving Door, International , Treatment, Guest Authors, Opinion Pieces

The leadership shown by Paris and New York in improving testing and treatment prove that it's possible to stem the HIV/AIDS epidemic

Why cities hold the key to fighting AIDS

Cities will determine the outcome of the fight to end Aids. Of the 35 million people living with HIV around the world, more than a quarter reside in urban hotspots affected by the pandemic. And in many major cities, over half of all people live without access to HIV prevention, testing, treatment and care. Urban strategies and actions are central to ending the Aids epidemic by 2030. This goal is ambitious but achievable and necessary. Cities are already demonstrating leadership. There have b

When to say goodbye

published: October, 14, 2015 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Félix Garmendía

New York poz guy Felix Garmendia on the loss of friends: “I don't mean the friends who have died, but the friends who drift away”.

When to say goodbye

As a long time HIV survivor, I have dealt with many losses, the loss of those that AIDS took away being the most painful. I watched countless numbers of injustices committed towards the HIV/AIDS community The day I was diagnosed, I realized my life had changed forever but I still didn’t know to what extent. One of the most common issues, but not spoken about enough in my opinion, is the loss of friends. I don't mean the friends who have died, but the friends who drift away. It could be bec

HIV Heroes of the Arts: (2) Robert Mapplethorpe: sexual subversive behind the lens

published: October, 07, 2013 Categories // Arts and Entertainment, Gay Men, Photography, International , Living with HIV, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Controversy and Mapplethorpe go hand in hand although these days we may wonder quite why. In the 70’s and 80’s though, he was a pioneer in showing the beauty behind male (and female) eroticism and sexuality through photography.

HIV Heroes of the Arts:  (2)  Robert Mapplethorpe: sexual subversive behind the lens

          “I’m looking for the unexpected. I’m looking for the things I have never seen before.” Robert Mapplethorpe What do you look for in a photograph? In the case of Robert Mapplethorpe, opinions were and are, as divided as they ever could be but what most viewers will agree on is that Mapplethorpe’s work can be truly, in your face, confrontational! Add the fact that he was gay, HIV positive and died of AIDS and you have a controversial figure and his controversial work, c

Bacterial meningitis: new killer kid on the block

published: April, 04, 2013 Categories // General Health, Health, International

Dave R writes…Just as we are beginning to hope that the worst of HIV/AIDS is over and that there may be a vaccine or cure on the horizon; along comes another killer bacteria aimed at gay men. Will meningitis be the new AIDS?

Bacterial meningitis: new killer kid on the block

The problem with scare-monger titles like this one is that you can be accused of over-reacting (especially if it turns out to be a false alarm) and therefore devaluing every warning in the future. That said, sometimes the message is more important than the delivery and a dramatic title may at least catch the eye. Recent reports concerning the deaths of HIV positive men in New York who have suddenly contracted a new strain of meningitis may seem localised (especially when you look at the numbe

Movie review: How to Survive a Plague

published: November, 02, 2012 Written by // John McCullagh - Publisher emeritus Categories // Activism, Gay Men, Arts and Entertainment, Health, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , John McCullagh

John McCullagh reviews the documentary movie that tells the story of how AIDS was turned from a death sentence into a chronic, manageable condition.

Movie review: How to Survive a Plague

As PositiveLite.com founder Brian Finch recently pointed out,  it’s difficult for anyone who didn’t live through the first decade of AIDS to truly grasp the horror of those dark times, when the gay community, so quickly following on the heady days of “gay liberation”, was decimated by HIV.   But by remarkable good fortune, those early “plague years” also saw the emergence of the video camcorder. So it was that the mobilization of the gay community in the face of death was recor

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