Articles tagged with: Michael Yoder

Lalalala...I can't hear you!

published: December, 05, 2017 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Social Media, Aging, Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Yoder

Michael Yoder: "When we keep closing doors we don't learn. When we constantly argue we risk pissing into the wind..."

Lalalala...I can't hear you!

"Hear no evil. See no evil. Speak no evil." Japanese proverb. The Three Wise Monkeys I have to admit that I tend to look for only those opinions and ideas that support my own personal belief system. Most notably anything political. I'm left-leaning and so listening to people who are also left-leaning is my preference. I shut out anything that doesn't fit my idea of the world. I think this is a human trait. I believe that we all, from whatever stripes we wear, look for only those things that

The lost art of communication

published: September, 29, 2017 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // featured, Social Media, Aging, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Yoder

Michael Yoder: "More and more I believe our social isolation (and not just for poz folk) is a symptom of disassociation and disconnection."

The lost art of communication

"The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place."  -- George Bernard Shaw When I was young, in my 20s, we had no internet or Skype. We had party lines and dial phones or those fancy new push button phones that were all the rage. We didn't have texting or sexting, or Scruff or Grindr, or phones that were used solely for the purpose of taking self-absorbed portraits of our dinners or our faces with duck lips. No, we had much more... We actually talked to

Us and them

published: July, 21, 2017 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Aging, Social Media, Gay Men, Current Affairs, Mental Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Media, Michael Yoder

Michael Yoder: "Unfortunately, we're all too human and we're all too convinced that we are separate from each other and everything else in the Universe."

Us and them

"If you understand, things are just as they are... If you do not understand, things are just as they are..."  Anonymous Something's been bothering me for a while now and I wanted to write about it, but couldn't put my finger on it until just the other day. What's been bothering me is how factions are appearing everywhere - Black Lives Matter, U=U, Politics and Pride parades, anger at just about everything and separation from each other. My little "aha" moment was that all this is about dual

Remembrance of things past

published: May, 04, 2017 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Social Media, Aging, Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Yoder

Michael Yoder: "I fear that if we don't record our past, in each community, we'll end up with a Hollywood version that misses the point..."

Remembrance of things past

"Remember, the storm is a great opportunity for the pine and the cypress to show their stability" -- Ho Chi Minh I read an article online where the number of long-term survivors who choose to commit suicide is increasing. Besides the tragedy of this in and of itself, there is a deeper loss - the loss of the living library of people who remember the "dark days" of HIV. Living in a small city, I know that there are only a few of us left who remember the people and events of our local past. Pe

The Pool of Tears

published: April, 10, 2017 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Mental Health, Health, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Yoder

Michael Yoder on the accumulated grief of successive losses: "I think that the weeping is good."

The Pool of Tears

"You ought to be ashamed of yourself," said Alice, "a great girl like you," (she might well say this), "to go on crying in this way! Stop this moment, I tell you!" But she went on all the same, shedding gallons of tears, until there was a large pool all round her, about four inches deep and reaching half down the hall. Lewis Carroll, Alice In Wonderland It's been years since the eighties and early nineties, since the dark days of AIDS and loss after loss of too many beautiful people. And yet

Music therapy

published: March, 28, 2017 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Alternative Therapies, Social Media, Aging, Gay Men, Mental Health, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Wayne Bristow

"There is definitely something to this," says Wayne Bristow.

Music therapy

Note to self: “Just when you tell yourself to slow down, you sign up for something more. But I have to hand it to you, this one might be good for you”. A couple of weeks ago I signed up for a workshop on ‘music therapy’. I had attended a previous session last fall and enjoyed it. I thought it might be a little hokey but it turned out to not be that bad, so I agreed to sign up if they brought it back. The workshop format started with a check in and introducing ourselves. Sitting in a

Like the Mark of Cain, we carry stigma with us.

published: March, 01, 2017 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Social Media, African, Caribbean and Black, Gay Men, Youth, Newly Diagnosed, Mental Health, Women, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Yoder

Michael Yoder: "... I wonder if, in some ways, we perpetuate stigma by trying to diminish it."

Like the Mark of Cain, we carry stigma with us.

"Then the Lord put a mark on Cain so that no one who found him would kill him" Genesis 4:15-16 I see a lot of campaigns about reducing stigma and each time I see a new one there's a little knot in my stomach that makes me uncomfortable. While I strongly believe that we need to reduce HIV stigma and discrimination, I wonder if, in some ways, we perpetuate stigma by trying to diminish it. Here some people's heads will be exploding, but nonetheless, every time we talk about how we're stigmatiz

Doubleplusgood in the land of alternative facts

published: January, 30, 2017 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Social Media, As Prevention , Gay Men, Current Affairs, General Health, Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, Mental Health, Sexual Health, International , Legal, Treatment, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Yoder

Big Brother is watching... America does not end at its borders. Michael Yoder foresees carnage and offers some resistance tips.

Doubleplusgood in the land of alternative facts

"And the Lord said unto Cain, Where is Abel thy brother? And he said, I know not: Am I my brother's keeper?"  Genesis 4:9 The world is different now and we should all be afraid. The new President of the United States is passing so many Executive Orders, it's surprising he doesn't get carpal tunnel syndrome from all those majestic strokes of the pen. His administration is not concerned with facts or with people, rather the man and his minions are concerned with looking good to a handful of f

(Un)Happy Holidays

published: December, 19, 2016 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Mental Health, Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Yoder

Michael Yoder on HIV and the holidays: "... the real purpose of Winter festivities is not to be happy, but to find belonging..."

(Un)Happy Holidays

"Holidays in general breed unrealistic expectations. The minute you start wondering, 'is it going to be wonderful enough?,' it never will be." --Pepper Schwartz "...If I could work my will," said Scrooge indignantly, "every idiot who goes about with 'Merry Christmas on his lips, should be boiled with his own pudding, and buried with a stake of holly through his heart..." --Charles Dickens, A Christmas Carol It's that time of year where we're all supposed to be full of joy and light and love

Wounds

published: October, 31, 2016 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Mental Health, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Yoder

"Can we allow our "Self" to cry and laugh and create the safe places where our child can heal - or at least be less afraid?" asks Michael Yoder

 Wounds

“Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.”  -- David Richo I've been talking with a number of people lately, and I'm starting to believe that we're all really just wounded children living in grown-up bodies. And it's not just those of us living with HIV - it extends to everyone. Children are shaped by experience. Of course, you could say that adults are shaped by experience as well, and I would say that it's just the child in us learning more thing

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