Articles tagged with: disclosure

A disclosure story

published: June, 26, 2013 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Women, Health, Sexual Health, Lifestyle, Revolving Door, Living with HIV, Guest Authors, Population Specific

From TheBody.com “Rape in Words and Actions”. River Huston describes how disclosing her HIV-positive to a new man in her life brings doubt - and difficult memories.

A disclosure story

This story by River Huston appeared on TheBodyCom here.  I met someone. I felt this instant connection. He responded in kind. Big smiles, little touches that lead to a kiss, and that kiss led to a fly-me-to-the-moon, feel-the-earth-move, curl-your-toes kind of kiss for hours. In the day that followed we told our stories and finally it came to that moment when it was time for me to disclose and I did. There was silence and some questions. I understand because he is my age, in his fifties and

The fabulous wizard of POZ

published: June, 06, 2013 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Activism, Gay Men, Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Mark S. King

Mark S. King at his funniest. But has fame as a POZ magazine cover girl gone to his head? Read his tongue in cheek answer.

The fabulous wizard of POZ

Every month or so, a group of people in my area host “poz socials,” a house party for people living with HIV. I found myself at one recently, because I thought it was important to make an appearance since becoming a literary superstar.  I was settled into the living room sofa and liked the spot very much. Sharing a couch with regular folk has an air of humility about it, while its angle allowed me to be viewed by a large number of the guests milling about. The man next to me leaned in c

Getting back on the horse again

published: May, 13, 2013 Written by // Brian Finch - Founder Categories // Gay Men, Living with HIV, Sex and Sexuality , Brian Finch

Brian Finch is back on the online dating scene again. Here's his blow by blow account..

Getting back on the horse again

What can I possibly write about online hook up sex sites that hasn’t been said? I’ve been off them for a couple of years since a guy I was seeing made me delete the last of the profiles I had, which was basically to stay in touch with a lot of guys I know in Europe. The last straw for me came when this guy I was with looked at me and said, “Ya I took some GHB, didn’t I put any in your drink?” I’m no prude, but since I put “NO PNP” in my profile, and the fact I’ve O.D’

Time to light the fire again: (part two) The origin of stigma and how to harness it

published: April, 24, 2013 Categories // Gay Men, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

Gary Nelson continues his exploration of HIV stigma and says serious diseases have always been stigmatized. But in the case of HIV we can reduce that by stepping up to the plate and disclosing.

Illnesses have always been stigmatized. Even the person who ventures into the office with a head cold is ostracized from the others. We jokingly cross our arms to ward off any germs that are airborne, and then quickly find a pump sanitizer so we can lather our hands back to cleanliness.  Most of us can deal with a cold and the ostracism that comes with it. There are more serious diseases, such as HIV/AIDS, that come with a cultural stigma attached to them. I think I was in the Fourth grade,

Sharing our stories, sharing ourselves

published: April, 24, 2013 Categories // Living with HIV

David Phillips and a recent stortytelling session which reinforced how recounting 30 years of loss, love, pain, and renewal can benefit others when it’s shared.

Sharing our stories, sharing ourselves

All of us have stories from our lives:  some we love to tell, and some we dread having told.  My ex from the 90s enjoyed recounting my being loaded into a powerboat for a medevac operation from a cruise ship....and nearly being dropped in the ocean!  Even in my late thirties my grandmother told my then-partner of five year-old of me vacationing in rural Oklahoma and winding up with a tick attached to the tip of my penis...maybe that’s why I never wanted a woman to handle Mr. Happy again?!

HIV disclosure kind of sucks, but it’s ethical

published: April, 17, 2013 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Health, Sexual Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Josh Kruger: "the longer I’ve been HIV+, the more traditional and, admittedly, boring I have become in relation to my sex and dating.”

When I first was diagnosed as HIV+, I remember being thankful for all the infrastructure in place to help me ensure that I wasn’t going to die of AIDS.  Whether it was through Philadelphia’s AIDS Activities Coordination Office or my initial visits to Philadelphia FIGHT, I received a care and attention that, just a decade or two ago, would be considered remarkable.  And, thanks to scientific advancements by pharmaceutical companies like Gilead, in part because of the United States governm

The stigma within us

published: April, 12, 2013 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Gay Men, Revolving Door, Living with HIV, Guest Authors, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

Guest Jason McDonald on the stigma that divides the gay community - and the stigma that lurks within ourselves.

The stigma within us

Like an onion, there are many layers to HIV-related stigma. Stigma can be internalized, directed at oneself, or it can manifest outwards.  Like an interstate, stigma can also move in both directions at the same time.  Consequences of stigma can impact a person, a relationship, or a community. Like an elevator, stigma can move up and down the age scale. The impact of stigma can have physical, emotional, and social effects on both HIV- and HIV+ men. It seems to me there is

Pollyanna – or – can't we all just get along?

published: April, 02, 2013 Categories // Gay Men, Health, Sexual Health, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Ken Monteith was rattled from both sides by a recent PositiveLite.com article.com article, and the reactions to it, from Michael Burtch about serodiscordant sex. He takes to his keyboard to rattle back, as calmly as possible.

Pollyanna – or – can't we all just get along?

Read Michael Burtch's article (My Relationship Status) - and comments - here. I'm a gay man of a certain age. My experience with HIV in my community goes back to the beginning, even if my awareness of my own infection does not. I was there as we learned from the first reports that something was going very wrong and that – given apparent indifference on the part of many, but not all, authorities – the community had to do something about it. I have watched friends die. This long history has

The biohazard blog, part one: germ of an idea

published: March, 19, 2013 Categories // Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

New writer Evan Hughes, incensed by an article written by editor Bob Leahy, later reexamines his attitudes about disclosure, at least to other poz guys, and decides to come out more publically - with a biohazard tattoo on his chest.

The biohazard blog, part one: germ of an idea

Feb 21, 2013 - 9:30 am  Another work day in Los Angeles. As always I'm greeted by the morning email as I roll out of bed. Leafing through the couple of dozen new arrivals on my iPad I found myself once again drawn to thebody.com postings.  Usually the headlines don't catch my eye but this one did  and it got me seeing red . . .  Bob Leahy: Tell All on Disclosure  " . . . . There is in fact a huge price to pay for nondisclosure -- which we, as people with HIV, seldom acknowledge. And, a

No shame, part two – what changed?

published: March, 05, 2013 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Activism, Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow in a follow-up to his recent post about coming out to the world.

 No shame, part two – what changed?

So it's been a couple of weeks since I posted my last blog "No Shame For Being HIV+",  I thought I would write a follow up to share the reaction I received from it. To be honest, it took a large shot of courage to send that article off to be posted. I didn't know how it would affect the people around me. Would I offend someone, would they feel pressed to say something? I believe it could have been a really ugly situation……..if certain people chimed in on it.  My story went up on

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