Articles tagged with: dating HIV-positive gay men

Dating irony: more than meets the I

published: June, 04, 2014 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Tom Latte disclosed on date number three. Did the guy freak out? Was there a happy ending? Read on.

Hello darkness, my old friend.  Recently, I was dating. Should Pope Francis take credit for it, that’s one out of three divine interventions sorted for his canonization. Anyway, the man was, by all accounts, not very aware when it comes to sexual health, having been in a straight monogamous relationships for years and only coming out of the closet in the last year or so. Add to that being only 25 and coming from a place where being gay is more on the Alienate People than How to Make Frie

Someone else in my bed

published: June, 04, 2014 Written by // Daniel Uy Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Daniel Uy

He's ready. Daniel Uy on letting go and making space for another man in his life.

Someone else in my bed

I am sitting here in a darkened room trying to not let the keyboard make too much noise. It’s early on a Sunday spring morning and although I would love to open the curtains and put on my short shorts and start my morning Mysore practice I am at a pause.  What’s the reason for this? Well it’s quite simple. There is someone else in my bed.   I made it a point and have even gone out of my way at many times to try not to speak about dating, love and relationships – mostly because

Gearing up for a good year

published: June, 02, 2014 Categories // Gay Men, Fitness and Exercise, Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Matt Levine

On health and fitness, San Francisco’s Matt Levine says three months of driving a pedicab have made him a new man. Now if he could just find another one

Gearing up for a good year

It’s been a good spring. Three months since driving a pedicab and I’ve put on muscle, lost fat and thanks to the fact that I’m no longer an on-call cater waiter (aka catering bitch) I’ve got a social life once again.  I get to set my own work schedule these days.    At first that last fact had me more than a bit freaked out. Since these days I’m the boss of me, set my own schedule, take days off when I want (I lease the cabs and don’t work for the company) what if I’m still

Fuzzy Bunnies [The Unattainables Part one]

published: May, 29, 2014 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Our NYC man about town Positively Dating on the men we can never have

Fuzzy Bunnies [The Unattainables Part one]

Why is it that the most unattainable guys are the ones we are most attracted to? I’m not talking about the guys who we think are so gorgeous they repel anything less then themselves. No, I am referring to the men, who for one reason or another, we can never have. In the past couple weeks I have had two very different kinds of unattainables.   A couple of weeks ago a new friend of mine, Charles was performing in a new play.  The only thing I will say about the production was that his perf

Confessions of a dating virgin

published: April, 28, 2014 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific

“There was no second date”. Marc-André LeBlanc with a sample of some of his first dates – and what went wrong with each

Confessions of a dating virgin

At the tender age of 35, I was still a dating virgin. I had never gone on a date in my life. I just went directly from being single to being in a long-term (14+ year) relationship at the age of 20. My best friend and I came out to each other and we immediately became a couple. So I had never been on a date with anyone until we broke up when I was 35 years old.  Since then, I have had some lovely first dates. And some not so lovely first dates. Here’s a sampling of the latter.  Muscle Man

We don’t need no education . . .

published: April, 23, 2014 Written by // Brian Finch - Founder Categories // Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Brian Finch

Brian Finch and education fatigue. " I’m tired of other people trying to make their problem my problem/"

We don’t need no education . . .

I have a couple of positive friends, but . . .    I’m suffering from education fatigue. One of the reasons I went so public about my status so many years ago was with the hope that I’d be able to make a difference for those who would follow. The rational thought was that as time went on people would become more educated and  that lives for people living with HIV would get better.    The context then is different from today's. Back then hospital staff slid the meal trays into th

Escape: To tell or not to tell, part 4

published: April, 08, 2014 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Travel, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific

Our Positively Dating escapes to an island in the south. But does he escape the need to disclose to sundry suitors?

Escape: To tell or not to tell, part 4

As the cold continued to descend upon the greater northeast, I decided to abandon New York City and escape the Polar Vortex for something a bit warmer. So, I whisked myself away on my first solo vacation and found myself on the gay friendly Caribbean island of Curaçao. Now, what is the first thing we do when going to a new place? If you guessed "use our gentleman socializing applications to see what the natives are like" you are correct!  Don’t get me wrong; I spent so much time lounging

Sero-discordant relationships: more complex than just sex

published: March, 25, 2014 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Health, Revolving Door, Lifestyle, Guest Authors, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

From OurAgenda.ca “I’m not sure who my next partner will be as I move towards my 6th anniversary of being HIV+, but I hope I see every potential candidate as I would want them to see me - a human being first...”

Sero-discordant relationships: more complex than just sex

This article by Peter Thomson first appeared on the website of OurAgenda.ca here.  The first time I heard the term ‘sero-discordant relationship’ was after my new boyfriend and I left the Hassle Free Clinic together. It was a high-five moment, you know, that a neg boy like him would see beyond my status and date me anyway. I’m not being facetious - I think we both felt that way. I know I did. Fistfulls of condom samples and lube in hand, we left the building. It felt nice, I admit, kn

Love bugs: love as a risk factor for HIV?

published: March, 18, 2014 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Sexual Health, Health, Revolving Door, Lifestyle, Guest Authors, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Christian Hui writes on OurAgenda.ca “Through my quest to seek for human connection and validation in the midst of facing sexual racism and depression, I had somehow put myself at risk for HIV. It was a love that I had paid dear price for, yet . . “

Love bugs: love as a risk factor for HIV?

This article previously appeared on the website of OurAgenda.ca here.  As a 35 year old gay, Asian HIV+ man, I have only had two serious relationships: one that started more than 10 years ago and lasted only three months, and one which I am currently in. For many years, I believed love was out of my reach. At one point, I thought the path of monkhood was in store for me as the elusive love I was so desperately looking for never came or lasted. Now that I am in a stable and loving relationsh

Relationships

published: March, 11, 2014 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Health, Revolving Door, Guest Authors, Lifestyle, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

From OurAgenda.ca, poz guy and Toronto-based researcher Rick Julien knows about relationships with other men – and with himself

Relationships

This article first appeared on the website of OurAgenda.ca here.   I was asked to write about gay men and relationships, so I thought I’d do this by sharing my own. My first relationship was with the first gay man that I met when I was 21 years old. Even though I knew I was ‘homosexual’ at age 15; growing up in small town Ontario did not feel like a safe place to ‘come out’ and for the longest time I thought I might be the only one. I met my ‘first’ at a training while I w

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