Articles tagged with: dating HIV-positive gay men

Apps and disclosure – or – there's HIV on my Phone!

published: October, 17, 2014 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Ken Monteith creeps the gay dating apps to discover how the apps and their users deal with HIV-related issues on their phones.

Apps and disclosure – or – there's HIV on my Phone!

I don't claim to be a pioneer of the online dating world, despite my great age. I do, however, remember a time when BB meant bulletin board and the advent of the gay chat rooms was the great leap forward. Now I don't even know how much people still use those chats, but that isn't necessarily because I have sped ahead and moved on to other things, either. I've just moved from looking to, well, just looking, and those apps on your (okay my) smart phone are lovely for that. But let's take a momen

Becoming a daddy

published: October, 09, 2014 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Pets, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific

Our hereto single Positively Dating says, hands down, he‘s landed on the best relationship he has had in years. The lucky individual’s name? Mr. Bingley.

Becoming a daddy

Recently my world shifted from the mid-thirties to the late thirties. I’ve never really cared about it because age is just a number, right? I mean, I’m in the best shape of my life and look better than people much, much younger.  My age never crossed my mind until a random twink who wasn’t even old enough to witness the most important sporting event of my youth  - the Tanya Harding, Nancy Kerrigan kerfuffle! - called me a ”Daddy”.  A Daddy? Really? When I think of a “Daddy”,

Choosing to love poz guys

published: October, 01, 2014 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, As Prevention , Gay Men, Sexual Health, Health, Revolving Door, Treatment, Lifestyle, Guest Authors, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

From The San Francisco AiDS Foundation’s beta mag, Jake Sobo on why poz guys who have an undetectable viral load are a good catch for neg guys

Choosing to love poz guys

I met James (1) on Grindr. Well, not exactly – he was a friend of a friend, who also happened to be a fan of my writing. We had connected years ago and intended to meet up, but we never found the time. So when James pinged me on Grindr, my interest was piqued. He was gorgeous, successful, and hung like a fucking horse. I thought to myself, “okay, what’s the catch?” We made plans to spend a weekend in his hometown, a two hour drive from me.  But before I got in my car and made the sc

Add a little [+] into your life

published: September, 24, 2014 Written by // Daniel Uy Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Daniel Uy

Daniel Uy says “If you want to have a more problem-free dating life, add the [+] to your name. It’s really that simple.”

Add a little [+] into your life

I'm going onto my 18th year of being HIV-positive now and I have to say there are some lessons along the way that I have learned the hard way. For years I tried to conceal my status from would-be suitors. My rationale at many times was, if I get to know them first and then tell them after then maybe they will still like me. This sort of idea and thinking would get me into all kinds of situations; mostly frustration and much despondency. I tried hiding it and it sort of drove me deeper into

How we expect when we’re expecting

published: August, 21, 2014 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Our guy in New York City Positively Dating crosses the Atlantic to meet an online “boyfriend” for the first time. How did it work out? Read on.

How we expect when we’re expecting

I have written before about expectations as applied to the lead up to the first sexual encounter with a new date. But in this world of technological dating, we are often left with an entirely new brand of expectations – the first face-to-face meeting.  These virtual expectations, whether good or bad, can actually keep us from enjoying things as they truly are. In my previous entry I wrote about fate and how it was taking me to Brighton, England for Gay Pride and more importantly, to meet

"You can do better than that"!

published: August, 19, 2014 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow asks “why are there so many gay men like myself out there looking but not able to find someone. Hell, some of us wouldn’t date each other – why?”

Take a minute and remember those days back in high school. A friend tells you that “so and so” thinks you're cute. Your first response is, “what does he look like?” “Oh you’ll really like him, he’s so funny, a great sense of humour and a great personality.” All of a sudden you hear dogs barking - he’s ugly. I’m starting to think this must be how people describe me when they know someone they want to introduce me to. Only because they are always telling me, you’re such a

I want to scream!!!

published: July, 21, 2014 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Revolving Door, Lifestyle, Guest Authors, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

In a story exclusive to PositievLite.com guest writer George from Montreal expresses his frustration for what happens when he discloses he is poz, even in the context of a safe encounter.

I want to scream!!!

I just want to fucking scream!!! I just want to scream at the top of my lungs, but living in a triplex with poor insulation precludes that. It’s really strange to feel angry, sad, frustrated, and diminished all at the same time.  What brought on this complexity of emotions is something that most of us have faced and continue to face in our daily lives as a poz community. I’m talking about the rejection that follows after disclosure. Now, you might ask “Is it your first time disclosing?

Having a poz boyfriend

published: July, 03, 2014 Written by // Christian Dolan Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Christian Dolan

The HIV-negative boyfriend of regular poz writer Christian Dolan, Myron Bartlett chips in with what it’s like to be in love with an HIV-positive guy like Christian.

I have been in a relationship with fellow contributor Christian Dolan for almost five months and I've never been happier. Christian isn't like anyone I've ever dated; he's super honest, never holds back on his opinions and can talk for the whole continent of Europe.  I love his drive and ambition to succeed in his career in digital marketing. I love the random fun we have. When we go out, he tells me he loves me at least 15 times (yes I've counted), we share treats like Haribo.We love Harib

The sex diaries of T. C. Pomeroy. Part 3; Love is flying in the air - or is it?

published: July, 02, 2014 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Promise unfulfilled. T.C. Pomeroy on a boy, a plane, and a date gone bad

The sex diaries of T. C. Pomeroy. Part 3; Love is flying in the air - or is it?

Prologue: The Introduction  It seemed like a foolproof way to end my psycho-sexual drought.  Fly him out.  Okay that's a bit of an exaggeration but I did chip in for half of the airfare from Chicago.   One of my oldest friends had connected us. Although only 26 he loved older men, especially hairy guys who were also smart and on the scruffy side of the street.    We had our first manic conversation on speakerphone. He was driving with my friend Ian and nearly giddy with excitement wh

Can it be fate? [The unattainables, part 2]

published: June, 26, 2014 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific

Fate takes a turn for the better as our Positively Dating almost lands in the lap of an attractive man he previously felt was unattainable

Can it be fate? [The unattainables, part 2]

Fate is a tricky beast. When deciding whether to believe in fate, we tend to think about the good things that have happened.  But to earnestly believe in fate, one must also think of all of the tragic things that have occurred. Was it fated that millions of Africans were going to be ripped from their homes and enslaved; was it fated that 9/11 would happen thus causing global panic; and was it fated that millions of Jews were to be murdered during the Holocaust? This is a major reason why I’

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