Ron Rosenes is PositiveLite’s first guest writer. Ron will be the first to admit his list of “firsts” are going smaller and smaller. It’s an honour to break him in as our first contributor.
It’s not enough that I must suffer the slings and arrows of ageist men who reject my advances on a regular basis when I cruise on line. OK so I lie about my age. What does anyone think when they read ages that end in the number 9?
Liar liar pants on fire, a guy’s gotta do what a guy’s gotta do! And years of yoga and the ability to touch my toes as easily as yours do not make up for the ignominy of having to put “average” for cock size. You can lie about your age but not about that! What’s the point? You will only get found out. Better anyway to under promise and over deliver, to manage expectations.
But all this is nothing compared to navigating the treacherous waters of disclosing your status on line. The only way to even hint at your status on my favourite website is to add ‘Poz’ into the list of “Seeking”. But not everyone gets it that you are seeking other poz men because you are too.
So what does etiquette demand? First of all, I have been surprised by the number of times I put it out there to someone who doesn’t put it on the list and they say there are poz too. Makes me wonder about their integrity although I have to wonder about my own when upon occasion I am chatting with someone really hot and don’t want to ruin the moment. Should I wait until they come over and tie them down before telling them, in the hope they will be awed by my beauty and unable to resist?
Nah, mostly better to get it over with. It usually goes like this: “BTW I’m healthy poz and undetectable many years on meds. Do you know what that means? Is it a deal breaker for you?” Then the long pause while I wait for the answer, my heart beating a little faster, what will their answer be?
When it’s “thx man but can’t take the chance” I say “cool, no prob bud” (that’s how real faggots speak to each other on line). Then I go on to say: “BTW did you know that I am the least likely person to give you anything (other than a hot time)?” Why they ask. “cause lots of guys who don’t know their status are full of virus and say they are neg so you gotta watch out for that”. “Cool man, thanks”. And so to bed, alone as usual.
But, on other occasions, other responses, ones that give me hope as a sexually active poz man who would like to be more sexually active…..