Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow

I'm a poz guy, diagnosed HIV+ in 2003. I've been blogging here at PositiveLite.com since March 20th, 2011. I am a self-taught social media junkie doing facebook and twitter. I'm a great retweeter. About four years ago I was asked to take on the position of Social Media Coordinator for PositiveLite. My other online presence is as an administrator for the HIVDisclosureProject.ca

I volunteer at two ASOs (AIDS Service Organization) in my area: ARCH (HIV/AIDS Resources & Community Health) in Guelph Ontario and ACCKWA (AIDS Committee of Cambridge Kitchener Waterloo and Area). I work as a PRA (Peer Research Associate) for the OHTN (Ontario HIV Treatment Network). In my spare time I am a hobby photographer; some of my photos may show up in my blog. 

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I got me... for now!

published: August, 23, 2017 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Social Media, Aging, Activism, Gay Men, Mental Health, Photography, Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow: I have a list of things that I need to do and no determination to attempt any of them."

I got me... for now!

I’ve realized, I’m not burning out, I’m having days when I wake up and say, “I just don’t want to do anything today”. August 15th, 2017, I received an email from the editor of PositiveLite asking if I had something for publication, that it’s been a while since my last submission. I haven’t responded to the email yet, deciding I would write something to explain why instead. I sat here most of the day and tried to think of a place to start, and it honestly became a struggle. I

It takes my breath away... a few times each night!

published: May, 31, 2017 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Social Media, Aging, Gay Men, General Health, Health, Living with HIV, Media, Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow: "I asked the one question I knew I had to, knowing I didn’t want to hear the answer. And I got the answer I didn’t want to hear."

It takes my breath away... a few times each night!

First I should make a short apology for absence from posting anything here on PositiveLite for a while. I have been going through some writer’s block and periods of, ‘there’s really isn’t anything to tell’. I am writing today because I think this is a significant development for me and might relate to someone else; maybe. I had a follow-up appointment with my doctor today. After reading my test results she asked if I had any other concerns and today I did. I asked the one question I

Music therapy

published: March, 28, 2017 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Social Media, Alternative Therapies, Aging, Gay Men, Mental Health, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Wayne Bristow

"There is definitely something to this," says Wayne Bristow.

Music therapy

Note to self: “Just when you tell yourself to slow down, you sign up for something more. But I have to hand it to you, this one might be good for you”. A couple of weeks ago I signed up for a workshop on ‘music therapy’. I had attended a previous session last fall and enjoyed it. I thought it might be a little hokey but it turned out to not be that bad, so I agreed to sign up if they brought it back. The workshop format started with a check in and introducing ourselves. Sitting in a

What lies ahead for me

published: February, 23, 2017 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Social Media, Activism, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow reflects on a career in blogging with PositiveLite.com and what growing older means in terms of his workload

What lies ahead for me

I was in Toronto the other day for a PositiveLite.com business meeting. This year there will be a couple minor changes and my role will be part of them, but more on that will come soon. As I rode the bus home I had time to think about my time at PositiveLite.com starting with my first post published in March 2011. It has been six years already. It was my debut writing for a big time website after a short stint writing for my local AIDS Service Organization (ASO)  here in Guelph. One day I a

My year end reflection: Just leave, 2016, enough!

published: December, 21, 2016 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Social Media, Aging, Gay Men, Health, Treatment, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow reflects on a difficult medication change, on how hard it can be to forgive people and the necessity and virtue of self care.

My year end reflection: Just leave, 2016, enough!

I see many people on social media talking about 2016 being the worst of years for them. There were times I praised it because there were many good things that happened for me. But the last month or so I’ve been confronted with some not so good things that have surfaced to the top of the attention pile. My pros and cons list has equaled itself out. In my last posting I spoke of my upcoming doctor’s appointment and how I wasn’t going to overthink things or see things that weren’t really

Wayne Bristow: it can't be HIV 24/7

published: November, 25, 2016 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Art, Social Media, Aging, Conferences, Gay Men, General Health, Mental Health, Photography, Living with HIV, Wayne Bristow

But self care can be hard to come by when those around you are unsupportive, as Wayne relates.

Wayne Bristow: it can't be HIV 24/7

I know it’s been a while since my last blog. I have shared my story, all of it, I think. My health has been good but I have a total physical to pass next week so that I can keep my bragging rights. I wanted to write about attending the first part of the Ontario HIV Treatment Network (OHTN) End Game conference last month but I’m still trying to digest the new research findings for aging with HIV. I used to look at aging from the side of possibly going into the healthcare system, in a facil

I’m sorry, this job may not be right for you!

published: October, 03, 2016 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Aging, Social Media, Gay Men, Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces, Wayne Bristow

"It’s never too late to learn a new skill or dream a new dream." says Wayne Bristow

I’m sorry, this job may not be right for you!

I suppose I could be a poster boy for what I’m writing about today. I set out to write about people who are doing work they aren’t qualified for, are unprepared for, or who are working at a job they don’t even want to do. Instead it's become an ‘I’ story, about me. That was probably a wise decision, I’m not in a place to judge. Many years ago I was hired to work in a factory. I had just re-united with my family and it was a time when I really needed to work to support them. We mo

Art for AIDS

published: August, 17, 2016 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Social Media, Hobbies, Fundraisers, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Wayne Bristow

Art can be a powerful therapeutic tool and a good fundraiser too. Wayne Bristow facilitates a workshop with help from Art For AIDS International

Art for AIDS

Earlier this year I was approached by one of my peers who had the vision of hosting an art show between the two AIDS Service Organizations (ASOs) in our area. The idea was originally conceived last summer during Pride month. We now have a committee working on it but I will only to be a contributing artist. The decision was part of my need to limit the activities I get involved in; I can’t do it all. “No” has be a complete sentence. Before leaving the planning committee I did share a few

Indulging your inner bacon habit

published: May, 11, 2016 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Food, Nutrition and Recipes, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Wayne Bristow

Our Wayne Bristow is well known for being a bit of a bacon freak. Here he shares a recipe for Bacon Wrapped Shrimp

Indulging your inner bacon habit

It’s only one of my vices, but if I were to ask my followers on Facebook to name one thing they know about me, I believe the most common response would be that I like bacon. And I know my bacon. It doesn’t come from a turkey, not all bacon bits are real bacon bits and what the hell is Bacon Vodka? Almost daily one of those followers will post a recipe, something funny or a true fact on the benefits of eating bacon. Two years ago I received $25 worth of bacon for a Christmas gift - best C

A hundred online advocates + HealtheVoices = a hundred champions

published: April, 27, 2016 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Social Media, Conferences, Health, Media, Opinion Pieces, Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow on attending a recent conference for fellow social media health advocates where he felt validated, energized and inspired

A hundred online advocates + HealtheVoices = a hundred champions

We are survivors of a chronic disease or caregivers, moms, dads, sisters or brothers affected by it. We are 100 activists with a huge connection - we are online health writers and bloggers. Many of us have never met. But thanks to the recent HealtheVoices conference in Chicago earlier this month we are connected.  Now, I’ve been to plenty of workshops, seminars, and conferences over the past five years, full of powerpoint presentations, professional speakers and very busy agendas full of r

A humbling moment.

published: March, 25, 2016 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Gay Men, Arts and Entertainment, Photography, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow enters a photography competition and says “this whole experience affirmed my belief that no matter what I have been through or going through now, there will always be someone less fortunate".

A humbling moment.

I have a wonderful group of peers who really know me – from the things I like (bacon) to my hobby (photography). Last December one peer was sitting on a committee with another organization that had organized an art show/contest called ‘Hope and Help: Overcoming Trauma’ and he suggested that I enter. I asked him to email me the entry information and I would take a look at it.  I downloaded the flyer, familiarized myself with the requirements and decided I would enter the contest. I coul

Valentines, zombies and bacon roses: a true story

published: February, 22, 2016 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Arts and Entertainment, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Wayne Bristow

A (Valentine’s) day in the life of Wayne Bristow

Valentines, zombies and bacon roses: a true story

Heart of Stone – photo by Wayne Bristow Valentine’s Day. It’s not like I didn’t know this day was coming. On social media it’s impossible to avoid the barrage of messaging between all my followers. I could have made plans, maybe ask someone out, but who? I could have asked around to see if anyone was having a get together or party but why should I always have to impose myself into the plans of others. So I do what I’m used to doing, turn it into a ME day, do what I want to do and

Don’t worry….be appy!

published: January, 28, 2016 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Hobbies, Lifestyle, Wayne Bristow

The world of photo apps. Wayne Bristow says, “it's 2016 and digital photography is here to stay. It’s time to break the rules and create some art.” So get out your phone.

Don’t worry….be appy!

Some serious photographers absolutely hate smartphone photography. They look down too on people who use the ‘auto’ feature to take pictures on your DSLR cameras - the only way to be creative is by doing things manually, they say. But if I followed that advice I would have missed 99 percent of the photos I’ve taken. When the pros ask me what f.stop setting I have used for a photo, I love the look they give me when I say, “I don’t know, I used the auto setting”. The only thing more

High time for medical marijuana

published: January, 07, 2016 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Health, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow says, “if anyone told me even a year ago that I’d be trying medical marijuana, I would have laughed.” Due to the need to do something about his aches, pains and arthritis, his thinking has changed.

High time for medical marijuana

Over the years I’ve had plenty of moments when I would say, “if you told me 10 years ago I’d be doing this, I’d tell you - no way.” One of those was when I worked as a personal support worker. I used to have a terrible gag reflex when it came to another person’s bodily secretions - except for my own children of course.  Today my legally prescribed medical marihuana arrived and here we have another of those moments. I tried it when I was a teenager and once during my late 20s, and

The perks of public speaking

published: December, 02, 2015 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Activism, Food, Nutrition and Recipes, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow, out public speaking during World AIDS Day week, finds there is still a great need to talk about HIV in all our communities. Sometimes perks come from the audience too.

The perks of public speaking

As I write this, World AIDS Week has begun. I have dual citizenship with Guelph and Kitchener Waterloo AUDS Service Organizations respectively, so there are a lot of activities for me to be involved in. One of the those I really enjoy doing and look forward to is getting out and doing public speaking. As I tell my story it changes all the time depending on what I remember to say. Then when I sit down after, I think, ‘damn, I meant to talk about this or that’. Sometimes when I think this m

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