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The soul of two roses

published: February, 14, 2016 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Félix Garmendía

A Valentine’s Day post from our New York guy, hopeless romantic Felix Garmendia who looks back on his wedding day four years ago this week

The soul of two roses

Roses have been part of my life from the very beginning. I grew up and was raised by my maternal grandmother in Puerto Rico. Her name was, “Rosaura”, which in English would translate into, “The aura of a rose”. One of my favorite memories is playing around her rose garden. I remember one day in particular, when she taught me an important lesson about women and roses. Looking at a small rose bud, she said to me, “You see this rose? This is your little sister”. Pointing out a beaut

Relentless Speaking About Music.- February 2016 edition

published: February, 11, 2016 Categories // DJ Relentless, African, Caribbean and Black, Arts and Entertainment, Gay Men, Music, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

Toronto’s DJ Relentless aka Alphonso King Jr is living with HIV and also doubles as drag artist Jade Elektra. Here’s Alphonso’s review of recent hits and misses in the music world

Relentless Speaking About Music.- February 2016 edition

It's Black History Month in the year 2016. The entertainment world is heading into the Oscars with a boycott hanging over it with no black actors being nominated in any of the major categories. We just finished Superbowl weekend and FOX News has declared war on Beyonce for her politically charged pro-black lyrics in her new track, "Foundation" that she dropped the day before the big event. And in this presidential election year where the top Republican candidates do not seem to be concerned

HIV Disclosures of a different kind

published: February, 10, 2016 Categories // Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

What they don't tell you about HIV. Don Short says "Here are some of my disclosures, which for me, fill in some gaps in HIV 101 and highlight the nuances of a life I never expected to happen:."

HIV Disclosures of a different kind

Remember when you scoped out resources after your initial diagnosis? Becoming HIV-positive brought you on a personal investigation. There were questions and concerns surfacing, fears amplifying, and many decisions demanding action – all part of the discovery to make sense of the unknown that was happening. You and I were stepping into a life transition. The resources I discovered at that time said much of the same thing and laid out my HIV journey in chronological, manageable steps: connec

Coming out of the viral closet is the best thing I’ve ever done

published: February, 04, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Activism, Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, International , Revolving Door, Living with HIV, Guest Authors, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

From FS Magazine “Being open about my status was something I never thought I could or would even want to do, but it has somehow made me who I am today.”

Coming out of the viral closet is the best thing I’ve ever done

This article originally appeared in HIV+Me with Ruaidhri O’Baoill @RuaidhriOB in FS Magazine, a publication of GMFA here.   I thought coming out as a 14-year-old boy growing up in Ireland was one of the hardest and bravest things I would ever have to do. However having come out publicly as HIV-positive topped it. Being open about my status was something I never thought I could or would even want to do, but it has somehow made me who I am today. I vividly remember the exact second when I

Adventures in HIV: celebrating D-Day, part two

published: February, 04, 2016 Written by // Rob Olver - Editor Categories // Activism, Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Rob Olver - Editor

Twelve month’s later - in which Rob Olver sees that his HIV diagnosis is not God's way of telling him to fuck off.

Adventures in HIV: celebrating D-Day, part two

 “Flesh is magic, dancing on a clock.” – Leonard Cohen, “God Is Alive, Magic Is Afoot”. / So four days previous I had turned sixty two. I was set to retire at the end of the month and now I had tested positive for HIV. I'd been struggling already to understand what retirement might mean to me and in truth I hadn't got much beyond some rosy vision of lawn bowling, cucumber sandwiches and cranky letters to the editor. Frankly, I didn't think it was for me. But what in hell was the di

Toronto’s OutNPoz growing by leaps and bounds

published: February, 03, 2016 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // Community Events, Activism, Dating, Gay Men, Events, Features and Interviews, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Bob Leahy - Publisher

When a social group grows from 180 to 430 members in one year you know something's right. And opportunities for Toronto poz gay guys to mix and mingle are growing further, says OutNPoz chair Scott Nickerson in this interview with Bob Leahy

Toronto’s OutNPoz growing by leaps and bounds

Bob Leahy: Thanks for talking to PositiveLite.com, Scott. I’ve wanted to meet you for ages but we’ve always just missed each other. Anyway, I want to start by asking the obvious question: what is the need that OutNPoz is filling? Scott Nickerson: Well, one of the concerns we have is that people living with HIV have become “clientized” – there are all kinds of services available through AIDS Service Organizations and such – but there is no one who focuses on the social aspect. We h

News from OutNPoz

published: February, 03, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Community Events, Gay Men, Events, Revolving Door, Living with HIV, Guest Authors, Population Specific

Want to know what’s going on at Toronto’s OutNPoz and how you can get involved?

News from OutNPoz

OutNPoz says . . . In addition to our inclusive social events, OutNPoz is thrilled to announce two new opportunities for Poz Gay Guys: PozNDating and PozNSexy. Register for a free meetup.com/quick_reg profile then join one or both of these new groups.  IMPORTANT: Name, face picture and disclosure of HIV+ status are required to participate in these groups. Leave HIV stigma in the past where it belongs. Come out meet new friends and have fun! meetup.com/pozndating is for Poz Men who are looki

Art+laughter=healing

published: February, 02, 2016 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Art, Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Félix Garmendía

New York's Felix Garmendia has a strong connection with art – and sometimes it has shown itself in mighty humorous ways

Art+laughter=healing

There are many ways to ease the adversities of illness. Many people use all kinds of things in order to improve the quality of their lives. Some things fall into the “spiritual” category, others fall into a secular daily life ritual.  We tend to surround ourselves with the kinds of objects that make us feel something, that prompt a reaction in us. If you are at home, look around the room where you are right now. What kind of feelings do you get? Can you see objects with a special “ene

Saying “I Do” in a blizzard

published: February, 01, 2016 Written by // Samantha Categories // Women, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Samantha

Our Samantha on her trip down the aisle one stormy winter’s day many years ago which ultimately led to her HIV infection

Saying “I Do” in a blizzard

I was watching the storm Jonas in the Eastern United States last week when someone mentioned how the storm impacted their wedding. This reminded me of my own wedding at the age of 18  in January 1972, during one of the worst snow storms on record.  My wedding was a last minute decision of my parents because I was pregnant. It was a family scandal that had to be addressed immediately and marriage seemed like the logical solution for my parents. They were very concerned about what family and

Floating above water

published: January, 27, 2016 Categories // Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Jason Cole

Jason R Cole says “It’s no secret that internalized stigma can surprise you” and make you the “sick person”, once again. How do you combat that? Read on.

Floating above water

One of the first things I am often lauded with is how open I am about my HIV status. I am open about my status for three distinct reasons: I believe my sexual partners have a right to make an informed decision regarding their sexual health, by knowing all the facts; because I believe the best way to educate others is through open and compassionate dialogue; and because I know that the law is not necessarily on our side. By our side, I mean us HIVers.  That last reason is crucial, because it

Dating, sex and HIV

published: January, 26, 2016 Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Toronto guy Josh, diagnosed in 2014, has decided “I’m happier staying away from dating and I’m happier staying away from sex.”

Dating, sex and HIV

Hoo boy – this is going to be fun to write. I say that because I’m writing on a rather personal topic, and I know for a fact that close friends and a colleague have this link. So… enjoy this one, friends!  On June 9, 2014, I received my HIV diagnosis. From that day forward, I have been single and I have been abstinent. Both of these things have been choices I’ve made for my own well-being and at first, the abstinence decision was made from a place of fear – fear of infecting someon

“Good Grief!”

published: January, 25, 2016 Categories // Gay Men, Newly Diagnosed, Mental Health, Health, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

Steven Hobé tells the story of his life with HIV. In Part Seven he relates his HIV diagnoses with the ten stages of grief. Right now “I hazard a guess I’m somewhere between stages Seven and Eight (Depression & Loneliness / Re-entry Troubles).”

“Good Grief!”

I admit I’m already pretty familiar with the Stages of Grief. I got a healthy taste of its chaotic computations when my father passed away nearly twenty years ago. At the time, it felt kind of like being on a roller coaster with no time to barf.  But glibness aside, if I was to try and encapsulate my own experience with Grief I would describe it as being like the ebb and flow of an ocean. Just as the ocean moves in and out, so too do our emotions, as they ebb and flow, oscillating between

Tiny explosion of panic

published: January, 25, 2016 Categories // Activism, Women, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

No condoms, no PrEP. Poppy Morgan on her latest efforts to conceive with her HIV-positive husband. “There have been a few times when the thought crossed my mind..."What if I got HIV from him?" It’s weird when that happens.”

Tiny explosion of panic

I ovulated last week and we had condom-less sex in hopes of conceiving. We've done this before, but this time it was different.  This time, I wasn't on PrEP! It has taken us years to get to this point, and we both felt very comfortable with this decision. The last time I thought I could go through with condom-less sex, it ended up that I couldn't. As I mentioned before, I am starting to trust the science about how low my risk is because he has an undetectable viral load. Of course, I gotta

What do dirty stories, a rabbi and Syrian refugees have in common?

published: January, 21, 2016 Categories // Arts and Entertainment, Gay Men, Fundraisers, Events, Spirituality, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality , Brian Finch

Brian Finch and the night his rabbi unexpectedly drops in on Brian’s deep dish, risqué storytelling event

What do dirty stories, a  rabbi and Syrian refugees have in common?

I’ve known my rabbi, Rabbi Ben, now for five years. He’s a little older than I am. A petit man, short buzzed grey hair with a small frame. Religiously he’s conservative and socially liberal. Like, be gay, but just be gay with a with nice Jewish boy. When I first met him I’d have to visit him once a month while I was on my path to conversion. I’d always feel awkward with him. He’s super nice and a smart guy. I’ll chalk it up to the “rabbi effect.” My friend’s husband is lik

Revolutions

published: January, 20, 2016 Written by // Michael Bouldin Categories // Gay Men, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Michael Bouldin

New York City's Michael Bouldin says the new year is a time not for resolutions but for revolution – and he’s changing everything up.

Revolutions

There’s a certain dreary sameness to the practice; every year seemingly, we promise our future self a fitter, faster, stronger, richer, happier state of being, one more worthy of love or success or some other matter of fancy. Certainly worthier of whichever bounty might justly accrue to present self – that flabby thing over there in the corner, wretchedly unloved – unlovable? – alone and more than slightly drunk. Bad present self, get your act together already. Right?  Yeah, probably

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