Lifestyle

Living with HIV, depression, Inclusion Body Myositis - and my lily

published: August, 02, 2016 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Félix Garmendía

It's sometimes possible for another living thing to support us just by being there, as our NYC guy, Félix Garmendía relates.

Living with HIV, depression, Inclusion Body Myositis  - and my lily

In the summer of 2006, I received a plant as a gift. It is a “Peace Lily”. The beautiful plant was a gift from the wonderful people from our local pharmacy when they found out that I had a bad fall that took me unconscious to the ER. In those days I was starting to show serious signs of muscle weakness and that fall put me in a wheelchair full time. The doctor sat me down and told me the truth. He told me that if I kept on falling my already brittle bones could get fractured very easily.

Peace and Paradox in the Pandemonium

published: July, 25, 2016 Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces

"We are avoiding something when our energy is always directed outward," says Don Short

Peace and Paradox in the Pandemonium

You can feel it. Chaos is accelerating in a broken world. More often these days, people around me are becoming insular and shutting down. And why not? There’s so much to deal with. Family members become suddenly ill, employment struggles abound, political tensions are rising, and brutal hate in the world has been and is being unleashed in fury. When everything seems out of our control, we spin. Thoughts of why and what’s next accelerate our worst fears. Often we dig deep to answer those

Adopting a child when you are HIV-positive: when things go wrong

published: July, 20, 2016 Categories // Social Media, African, Caribbean and Black, Women, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces

Dear Donna Gold. Stigmatized for HIV while trying to adopt a child, Lolo writes a letter that recounts the long term damage.

Adopting a child when you are HIV-positive: when things go wrong

Toronto, July, 2016 Dear Donna Gold, I have wanted to write you a letter for some years. I wonder how things would have turned out differently for my husband and I had I put pen to paper before today. I have wanted to tell this story for some time. I feel compelled do so in the hopes that people with HIV and others will contemplate the issues I explore and the implications of these issues. Almost ten years ago, you were the Canadian-based social worker assigned to assess our family for suit

Durban Diary – Day one

published: July, 13, 2016 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // International AIDS Conference , Travel, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Bob Leahy - Publisher

Our editor Bob Leahy is in Durban South Africa this week, filing daily reports from the International AIDS Conference. Day One finds him departing from his rural Ontario home for a long flight half way around the globe.

Durban Diary – Day one

Wednesday July 13 I don’t particularly like flying so today (and tomorrow) is going to be a bit of a challenge. My flight leaves at 2.40 pm from Toronto, about a two hour drive from here,  to Washington DC where I transfer to another plane to take me to Johannesburg, then a third for the relatively short leg from Johannesburg to Durban. I arrive there at 8.05 pm tomorrow (Thursday).  How do people do this? I mean no amount of in-flight movies, iPhone games or reading 1,000 pages of War a

Bon Voyage: A recap on the 2016 Poz Cruise & Adventure Bear Alaskan Rendezvous

published: July, 12, 2016 Written by // Joshua Middleton Categories // Social Media, General Health, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Media, Opinion Pieces, Joshua Middleton

"It was the trip of a lifetime for me. A time to rejuvenate," says Joshua Middleton

Bon Voyage: A recap on the 2016 Poz Cruise & Adventure Bear Alaskan Rendezvous

The vastness and beauty of nature is something that has mystified mankind from the beginning of time. It’s as if by seeing the wonders of the world, we see the beauty inside ourselves. Most recently, I experienced this feeling as the annual HIV Poz Cruise joined forces with the Adventure Bears, a social group of gay and bear friendly men. Together we explored the last frontier, the great state of Alaska. Although not the typical cruising location that you might have pictured in your mind, i

VII

published: July, 06, 2016 Written by // Alex Sparrowhawk Categories // Gay Men, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Alex Sparrowhawk

"I'm still smiling today." From the UK, Alex Sparrowhawk looks back on his first seven years of life with HIV.

VII

This photo was taken in the summer of 2009, the middle of June and a week after when I believe I was in infected. At the end of that holiday in the south of France I started to feel unwell but it wasn’t until five months later that I would find out what the fever, sweats and cough I endured for the two weeks after I returned to the UK were all about. The past seven years with this condition have had their ups and their downs but I am a stronger and more confident person as a result of th

The Fire Island Invasion

published: July, 05, 2016 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Pride, Community Events, Activism, Festivals, Gay Men, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Félix Garmendía

Felix Garmendia says, "This is how we do it in Fire Island. Happy 4th of July!"

The Fire Island Invasion

“Invasion of Normandy”= World War II “British Invasion”= The Beatles “Invasion Of The Body Snatchers”= epic horror movie “FIRE ISLAND INVASION”= ship full of men wearing dresses The communities of “Cherry Grove” and “The Pines” on Fire Island have been the summer playground for gay people for many decades and these historic “gay communities” are an integral part of New York’s vibrant gay scene. People from all over the world flock every summer to enjoy the be

Long term survivor Barry Haarde rides again!

published: July, 04, 2016 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // Social Media, Hep B and C, Activism, Fundraisers, Fitness and Exercise, Features and Interviews, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Bob Leahy - Publisher

HIV and Hepatitus C long term survivor Barry Haarde is about to set off on his fifth trancontinental bicyle trip to raise funds for hemophilia.

Long term survivor Barry Haarde rides again!

Barry Haarde is a remarkable 50 year old long term survivor of both HIV and HepC who is about to embark on his fifth transcontinental bike ride for Wheels for the World 2016: Saving Lives by the Mile.  Since 2012, Barry has ridden over 10,000 miles to help raise $150,000 for Save One Life. Barry's goal this year? 5,000 miles--from Everett, Washington through 22 states to Key Largo, Florida! He will ride from July 17 - September 11. Bob Leahy: Hi Barry. This is your fifth transcontinental bi

Looking good is the best revenge - the swimsuit edition

published: June, 27, 2016 Written by // Philip Minaker - Style Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Philip Minaker

PositiveLite.com's Philip Minaker with some easy ways to feel and look really, really good this summer.

Looking good is the best revenge - the swimsuit edition

It’s really no big secret. The key to really looking great is to feel great. And since summer is now upon us, there is an easy remedy to mutually spark up the external and internal you. Simply dive into the great outdoors and soak up some of that sun! Besides transforming your skin color from pasty white to a flattering tan, your body also naturally absorbs a healthy dose of the Sunshine Vitamin known as Vitamin D. Mild sun exposure can indeed boost the immune system, warding off a multitud

My muscles, my disease: the pitfalls of a meth addict

published: June, 23, 2016 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Gay Men, General Health, Mental Health, Health, Sexual Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Mark S. King

"Only my body lags behind, injured, resentful, and suspicious of the path to well being," says Mark S. King

My muscles, my disease: the pitfalls of a meth addict

There is a folder, tucked within a folder, buried deep in my computer files. I shouldn’t be looking at its contents, yet I can’t bring myself to delete it altogether. It is labeled MARCUS, and inside the folder is my disease. During my years of crystal meth addiction I went by the name of Marcus, at least to dealers and tricks and fellow addicts. It helped me determine who was calling my cell phone — those calling for Mark or Marcus usually had very different agendas — and Marcus even

Republishing "Fuck poz guys!" Has the message sunk in yet? We think not.

published: June, 16, 2016 Categories // Dating, Activism, Gay Men, Sexual Health, Health, Lifestyle, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific , Sex and Sexuality

Marc-André LeBlanc asks if you’re a neg guy is it safer to have sex with poz guys or neg guys? Limit your condomless sex to poz guys with undetectable viral loads and avoid condomless sex with casual negative partners he suggests.

Republishing

PositiveLite.com Editor's note: This article, now over three years old, has been read by more people in PositiveLite.com's six-year history than any other. When Marc-André LeBlanc wrote it, the view expressed - that undetectable poz guys were a much safer bet than neg guys realized - was groundbreaking. It's since become mainstream - and yet not. Anybody who is undetectable who has been rejected by a "neg" guy seeking a "safe" partner knows it. Many neg guys still think that going with anot

"No offence... but I'm not looking to date poz guys"

published: June, 09, 2016 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Activism, Gay Men, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Revolving Door, Guest Authors

From FS Magazine, guest author Ruaidhri O’Baoill says, "I need to make it my mission to educate, not discriminate."

This article by Ruaidhri O’Baoill @RuaidhriOB is from FS Magazine, a publication of the UK’s GMFA, here. Republished with permission. Last year I sat down and wrote an article on how coming out of the ‘viral closet’ was one of the best things I have ever done. The idea that nearly two years after my diagnosis I would be very publicly open about my HIV status is incredible. By incredible I mean I know how low and depressed I was feeling right at the beginning. I don’t say it eno

Medical marijuana activism in NYC

published: May, 26, 2016 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Alternative Therapies, Activism, Gay Men, Mental Health, Health, International , Treatment, Lifestyle, Population Specific , Félix Garmendía

Our NYC guy Felix Garmendia recalls with affection and pride his days with the NYC Buyers' Club

Medical marijuana activism in NYC

"I wouldn’t say the weed made me HIGH, but it did manage to wrap me in an aura of relaxation, comfort and serenity. My mind drifted to a peaceful place, far from the horrors of working in a putrid system that just doesn’t work." I have used the “herb” for decades now. It was introduced to me by my “paraprofessional” (teacher’s helper) when I was a New York City school teacher, working in the Bronx in the early 1990s.  One Friday afternoon Miss Rodriguez saw me resting my head

Life lessons: seeing beyond the "quick fix" impulse

published: May, 23, 2016 Categories // Mental Health, Women, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces

New contributing author Lolo says, "Using the word “should” positions me/us to disappoint others or ourselves."

Life lessons: seeing beyond the

"Living with a condition that, in Canada, we are able to classify as chronic and manageable is both a blessing and an ongoing challenge. Bringing about “slight or subtle adjustments” in thinking and doing, such as the ones I discuss, can be instructive and gratifying." Last weekend, one of my two breakfast companions (I will call him David-the-first) was exasperated with himself. He explained that for months during the past winter he had not been feeling well enough to go to the gym as h

A film about long term survivors: into the desert, after the bomb

published: May, 19, 2016 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Aging, Gay Men, Movies, Arts and Entertainment, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Mark S. King

Mark S. King calls Daniel Cardone’s Desert Migration “an almost clinical look at the after-effects of a catastrophe.”

A film about long term survivors: into the desert, after the bomb

Daniel Cardone’s essential but relentlessly grim documentary about longtime AIDS survivors, Desert Migration, is fascinated with the bodies of the gay men it profiles. The film begins with lingering shots of each of the subjects as they begin their day.  It follows them through their routine, some of them naked, as they prepare breakfast, shower, shave, meditate. Their faces peer directly at us — a few of them handsome, all of them weathered — in high definition close-up. We are bein

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