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How HIV made me look at dating differently

published: May, 04, 2017 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Social Media, Gay Men, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Revolving Door, Guest Authors

From FS Magazine, Ruaidhri O’Baoill on dealing with dating and stigma in the wake of his diagnosis.

How HIV made me look at dating differently

I recently met up with a friend of mine who laughed when I mentioned that I was writing my next article on relationships. I can’t blame him. I’m single. I’ve been consistently single for the past nine years. My relationship with relationships isn’t great. When I was younger I couldn’t wait until I was older so I could find ‘the one’. I was such a romantic. I would obsess over how we would meet. How he would propose. Where we would live and what our lives would be like. Even thou

2,100 miles on a bike: Barry Haarde is in the saddle again

published: April, 25, 2017 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // Hep B and C, Fitness and Exercise, Features and Interviews, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Bob Leahy - Publisher

Bob Leahy talks to long-time HIV and Hep C survivor Barry Haarde as he prepares to tackle his sixth marathon bike ride to raise awareness and money for hemophilia

2,100 miles on a bike: Barry Haarde is in the saddle again

Bob Leahy: Hi again Barry. Tell us about your route you will be travelling this time.  Barry Haarde: After completing five trans-continental tours in the U.S., including last year’s 5,000 mile trek from Seattle to Key West in 60 days, we decided to change things up a bit and ride the length of the Alaska Highway. The ride starts at “Mile 0” of the AlCan route in Dawson Creek, B.C. and tracks northwest in to Alaska, finishing near Fairbanks. Then, I’ll be riding an additional 650 mile

Passing the torch in high style.

published: March, 20, 2017 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Social Media, Aging, Gay Men, Mental Health, Health, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Félix Garmendía

Félix Garmendía recalls Bill, the man who taught him that self presentation is self celebration -- and that both are important.

Passing the torch in high style.

I used to see him very often in the neighborhood. I didn’t even know his name but there was something about this man that was very pleasant and captivating. My husband, Denis and I used to comment on how handsome and dapper he always appeared. He was a really sharp dresser, a very elegant man with a well-crafted retro sense of fashion. With his linen suits, alligator shoes, ascots, and meticulously crafted handlebar mustache, he was always a sight to behold. Every time he crossed our path,

Form & function in men's spring style.

published: March, 13, 2017 Written by // Philip Minaker - Style Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Philip Minaker

Philip Minaker reports on this spring's casual looks for men.

Form & function in men's spring style.

Many of us have opted for a less structured approach to dressing that accommodates our lifestyles. Incorporating clothing specifically designed for workouts and other athletic activities into our work, casual and social wardrobes has become a new standard of dressing. And since it has begun chipping away at sales in casual (think jeans) and ready to wear commodities it has created one of its own. Pieces specifically designed for true sportswear have now expanded into everyday wear. Whether fo

HIV and dating: toe in the water

published: March, 13, 2017 Written by // Alex Sparrowhawk Categories // Social Media, Dating, Gay Men, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Alex Sparrowhawk

Newly single after a long time in a relationship, the UK's Alex Sparrowhawk braves the currents of modern dating.

HIV and dating: toe in the water

Following my diagnosis it was a mere three months before I met my ex-partner. He was someone I spent another six and a half years with until we broke up at the end of last summer. I think I am in a little bit of an unusual situation; living with HIV for 87 months but during that period only being single for nine of them. I’ve been avoiding dating since the split, enjoying time by myself and busying myself with work, family and friends. Over the past few weeks I’ve been toying with the

HIV prevention for people who inject drugs: New biomedical approaches and time-honoured strategies

published: March, 06, 2017 Written by // CATIE - HIV and Hep C Info Resource Categories // Social Media, As Prevention , Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, Research, Health, International , Treatment, Lifestyle

From CATIE, Camille Arkell looks at the risk of HIV transmission through injection drug use, and explores some of the factors that contribute to an increased risk among people who inject drugs.

HIV prevention for people who inject drugs: New biomedical approaches and time-honoured strategies

Une version française est disponible ici. In Canada, people who inject drugs are disproportionately affected by HIV compared to the general population. Among people who inject drugs, HIV transmission happens primarily through the sharing of injection drug use equipment, but also through sexual transmission. This article will look at the risk of HIV transmission through injection drug use, and will explore some of the factors that contribute to an increased risk among people who inject dr

No more sex shaming: why my 2017 will be sex-positive.

published: February, 21, 2017 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Social Media, Gay Men, Mental Health, Sexual Health, International , Lifestyle, Media, Opinion Pieces, Sex and Sexuality , Revolving Door, Guest Authors

From FS, Vish says, "Perhaps it’s time we banish the world ‘slut’ from our vocabulary or at least reclaim it to mean something more sex-positive."

No more sex shaming: why my 2017 will be sex-positive.

This article originally appeared in the UK’s FS magazine, a publication of GMFA, here. I want to be a ‘slut’. There, I said it. You might be thinking, “why would anyone want to be a slut?” After all, this word is deeply misogynistic, where  women are criticised for dressing a certain way and for having openly active sex lives. Heaven fucking forbid! This negativity also spills into the gay world to some extent, particularly when STIs are involved, and people get on their high hor

Sex after diagnosis: my journey to believing that undetectable HIV viral load means uninfectious

published: February, 20, 2017 Written by // Joshua Middleton Categories // Dating, Social Media, As Prevention , Activism, Treatment Guidelines -including when to start, Mental Health, Health, Sexual Health, International , Treatment, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Joshua Middleton

Joshua Middleton tells of how he addressed self-stigma and maintained a sexual identity post-diagnosis.

Sex after diagnosis: my journey to believing that undetectable HIV viral load means uninfectious

To read the entire  article by Joshua Middleton, visit TheBody.com, here. An image of the moment I was diagnosed HIV positive remains vivid in my mind. The feelings and emotions that ran through my body like a lightening bolt that day are not easily forgotten. They will be with me forever, as will my feeling of infectiousness upon hearing the words that have played in my mind like a broken record all these years: "Josh, I am sorry, but you are HIV positive." I remember telling myself that

Toronto's Dennis Battler says he's a "Seq Worker". But what does he mean?

published: February, 15, 2017 Written by // Dennis Battler Categories // Social Media, Yoga, Gay Men, General Health, Mental Health, Spirituality, Dennis Battler, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces

Dennis Battler on how staying sane takes work

Toronto's Dennis Battler says he's a

Asked recently how I spend my time, a clear simple answer was hardly suitable. Yet to offer an accurate statement would take the entire evening. Spending the next few days pondering a succinct reply, irony speaks most loudly in my ear. Ready for the next time this question comes up, "Seq Worker" will be the response. Confusing and throwing the inquirer off balance – off balance because, firstly they would have to admit they know the term; secondly because they would be astonished to be in t

I am HIV-positive. This is what it's like to date.

published: February, 09, 2017 Written by // Guest Authors - Revolving Door Categories // Dating, Social Media, Mental Health, Women, Sexual Health, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Revolving Door, Guest Authors

Must-read from Redbook: Dating after a breakup is hard enough — now add being HIV positive to that.

I am HIV-positive. This is what it's like to date.

To read the complete article by Karen Fratti visit Redbook, here. I was living in New York City with a boyfriend I'll call Matt when I was diagnosed with HIV. I was 28 and he was just hitting 35. It was my first steady, long-term relationship, and we did what I used to think of as "grown-up" things. Like having Sunday football parties or fighting in Home Depot about what color to paint an accent wall in our living room. We made complex weekday dinners to distract ourselves from the fact th

2017 and I’m not Nostradamus.

published: February, 06, 2017 Written by // Colin Johnson Categories // Social Media, Aging, African, Caribbean and Black, Gay Men, Colin Johnson, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces

On "self-imposed social inactivity".As 2017 opens, Colin Johnson knows where he is and what he'd like to see, even though the future looks cloudy.

2017 and I’m not Nostradamus.

I haven’t written for a while. Sorry Bob, it's not because I can’t think of a topic; quite the contrary there are so many topics. For example, I kept agreeing with the consensus that 2016 sucked. However, in re-examining the year, I’m forced to admit that as a Long-Term Survivor (LTS) it was no different than the last ten years. I lost friends. I’m still on disability which really limits one’s life possibilities. There’s a sense of depressing regularity which naturally I counter w

Embracing a positive life

published: January, 24, 2017 Written by // Billy Santo Categories // Dating, Gay Men, Youth, Billy Santo, Newly Diagnosed, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Population Specific

New blogger Billy Santo from the Philippines, living with HIV since May 2015, tells his story of hard times, redemption and making a difference

Embracing a positive life

I have had a difficult life. My mom committed suicide when I was three years old and my dad had a heart attack when I was nine. I am a product of child abuse, being passed from one relative to another. I was lost on track when I reached college where I decided to run away from my uncle who had treated me like an animal and went on searching for a place where I could survive. I begged from strangers, asked them to keep me in their homes in exchange for labor. I met up with many gay men for mo

Jeff Potts is home and doing well – but still facing major challenges

published: December, 22, 2016 Written by // Jeff Potts Categories // Health, Lifestyle, Jeff Potts, Living with HIV

Our popular Ottawa-based contributor Jeff Potts who suffered a stroke a few months ago provides a pre-Christmas update on how he is doing

Jeff Potts is home and doing well – but still facing major challenges

I am so incredibly glad to be home from hospital, but can't deny that being at home has meant making some significant adjustments.  I am improving every single day, but still have a long recovery road ahead I think. I am eating regular foods, but have some lingering affect in my throat and neck muscles, so my diet remains restricted (no mixed textures; no clear fluids while eating... so no chicken soup, lol).  I am walking, but very slowly and not without a mobility device (walker or cane).

Festive dessert time: How to make a really good trifle

published: December, 22, 2016 Written by // Bob Leahy - Publisher Categories // Food, Nutrition and Recipes, Lifestyle, Bob Leahy - Publisher

Bob Leahy shares his mother’s recipe for a dessert that will wow guests, visually and otherwise, the old fashioned way

Festive dessert time: How to make a really good trifle

Bob’s homemade trifle  Trifle; definition: 1. a thing of little value or importance 2. British: a cold dessert of sponge cake and fruit covered with layers of custard, jelly, and cream. If ever there were two definitions of the same word that are contrary to each other, trifle is that word. Dessert is seldom unimportant and when trifle is on the menu, it most definitely isn’t. I don’t think there can be many desserts so simple to create – anyone can do this - with such a high w

(Un)Happy Holidays

published: December, 19, 2016 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Mental Health, Health, Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Yoder

Michael Yoder on HIV and the holidays: "... the real purpose of Winter festivities is not to be happy, but to find belonging..."

(Un)Happy Holidays

"Holidays in general breed unrealistic expectations. The minute you start wondering, 'is it going to be wonderful enough?,' it never will be." --Pepper Schwartz "...If I could work my will," said Scrooge indignantly, "every idiot who goes about with 'Merry Christmas on his lips, should be boiled with his own pudding, and buried with a stake of holly through his heart..." --Charles Dickens, A Christmas Carol It's that time of year where we're all supposed to be full of joy and light and love

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