Articles tagged with: dealing with depression

To the healing hands of my caregiver

published: June, 01, 2017 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Félix Garmendía

Félix Garmendía: "Thank you to all the hidden heroes behind the scenes, thank you to all that give the best they have to enhance the quality of life for those of us LIVING with a degenerative disease."

To the healing hands of my caregiver

As a long-term HIV survivor, I have realized that it’s becoming increasingly less likely that HIV will kill me. I just came from my regular doctor checkup last week. After 30 years carrying HIV, I am undetectable and have 937 T cells. I can remember when 937 T cells were enough for four people. I can’t help but think about those who didn’t make it. I am also reminded of the countless family members who lost precious loved ones. We were not allowed to have “spouses” then. The best ph

The Pool of Tears

published: April, 10, 2017 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Mental Health, Health, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Yoder

Michael Yoder on the accumulated grief of successive losses: "I think that the weeping is good."

The Pool of Tears

"You ought to be ashamed of yourself," said Alice, "a great girl like you," (she might well say this), "to go on crying in this way! Stop this moment, I tell you!" But she went on all the same, shedding gallons of tears, until there was a large pool all round her, about four inches deep and reaching half down the hall. Lewis Carroll, Alice In Wonderland It's been years since the eighties and early nineties, since the dark days of AIDS and loss after loss of too many beautiful people. And yet

Passing the torch in high style.

published: March, 20, 2017 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Aging, Social Media, Gay Men, Mental Health, Health, International , Lifestyle, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Félix Garmendía

Félix Garmendía recalls Bill, the man who taught him that self presentation is self celebration -- and that both are important.

Passing the torch in high style.

I used to see him very often in the neighborhood. I didn’t even know his name but there was something about this man that was very pleasant and captivating. My husband, Denis and I used to comment on how handsome and dapper he always appeared. He was a really sharp dresser, a very elegant man with a well-crafted retro sense of fashion. With his linen suits, alligator shoes, ascots, and meticulously crafted handlebar mustache, he was always a sight to behold. Every time he crossed our path,