"You ought to be ashamed of yourself," said Alice, "a great girl like you," (she might well say this), "to go on crying in this way! Stop this moment, I tell you!" But she went on all the same, shedding gallons of tears, until there was a large pool all round her, about four inches deep and reaching half down the hall.
Lewis Carroll, Alice In Wonderland
It's been years since the eighties and early nineties, since the dark days of AIDS and loss after loss of too many beautiful people. And yet