Articles tagged with: bereavement

¡QuE viva la vida! (Long Live Life!)

published: August, 03, 2017 Written by // Félix Garmendía Categories // Aging, Social Media, Activism, Gay Men, General Health, Mental Health, Health, International , Living with HIV, Media, Félix Garmendía

New York guy Félix Garmendía: "It’s not just another day, it is also one precious day less. I am going to make it count!"

¡QuE viva la vida!  (Long Live Life!)

I am finding it difficult to write at this moment in my life. Every time I try to do so, my mind goes blank. The reality is that for the first time in a long time, I am scared. I have noticed that there’s a feeling of sadness pervading my mood these days. The loss of friends by natural causes and by life choices, my elderly mother’s issues and the deterioration in my mobility all contribute to this feeling of malaise. I am having dreams that are very vivid and intense, where I am still

A Second Chance at Death

published: May, 03, 2017 Written by // Mark S. King - My Fabulous Disease Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Mental Health, International , Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Mark S. King

Mark S. King reflects on how his experience of the "plague years" of HIV have better prepared him to face his own mortality.

A Second Chance at Death

The angel visits, in the 1993 Broadway production of Angels in America. We all know how this ends. Despite the avalanche of articles on aging with HIV or advice about how to avoid long-term side effects or even news of progress toward a cure, nothing will change the inevitable. None of us will get out of this alive. And, in one of the bitter ironies of being a long-term survivor, my experiences during the worst of the plague years have become a handy point of reference. I have learned imp

The Pool of Tears

published: April, 10, 2017 Written by // Michael Yoder Categories // Social Media, Gay Men, Mental Health, Health, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Michael Yoder

Michael Yoder on the accumulated grief of successive losses: "I think that the weeping is good."

The Pool of Tears

"You ought to be ashamed of yourself," said Alice, "a great girl like you," (she might well say this), "to go on crying in this way! Stop this moment, I tell you!" But she went on all the same, shedding gallons of tears, until there was a large pool all round her, about four inches deep and reaching half down the hall. Lewis Carroll, Alice In Wonderland It's been years since the eighties and early nineties, since the dark days of AIDS and loss after loss of too many beautiful people. And yet

The importance of staying busy

published: March, 23, 2017 Written by // Louis "Kengi" Carr - L.A. Correspondent Categories // Social Media, African, Caribbean and Black, Activism, Aging, Gay Men, Mental Health, Photography, Pets, International , Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Louis "Kengi" Carr

Our L.A. correspondent Kengi deals with bereavement and stress by keeping busy - and does some great work in the process.

The importance of staying busy

I’m sitting down to write this post, because on those rare occasions when escaping with my camera for a photography excursion doesn’t seem to work, I then try to relax, calm and center myself by writing. As a backup, I have my candle burning, I really love a nicely scented candle. Damn, if I had some sage this would be perfect. I’m sipping my hot tea and my little Daisy has pulled her blanket off the sofa, placing it right next to my work space. She’s the dog that loves to be close to

My year end reflection: Just leave, 2016, enough!

published: December, 21, 2016 Written by // Wayne Bristow - Positive Life Categories // Aging, Social Media, Gay Men, Health, Treatment, Living with HIV, Opinion Pieces, Wayne Bristow

Wayne Bristow reflects on a difficult medication change, on how hard it can be to forgive people and the necessity and virtue of self care.

My year end reflection: Just leave, 2016, enough!

I see many people on social media talking about 2016 being the worst of years for them. There were times I praised it because there were many good things that happened for me. But the last month or so I’ve been confronted with some not so good things that have surfaced to the top of the attention pile. My pros and cons list has equaled itself out. In my last posting I spoke of my upcoming doctor’s appointment and how I wasn’t going to overthink things or see things that weren’t really

Facing bereavement in HIV work: why is it so hard to say goodbye?

published: December, 07, 2016 Written by // Megan DePutter Categories // Spirituality, Living with HIV, Megan DePutter, Opinion Pieces

Megan DePutter on the bereavement that often comes with HIV work: "We are left, without ritual, without comment, without community, without closure."

Facing bereavement in HIV work: why is it so hard to say goodbye?

I have been nervously anticipating this year’s World AIDS Day. It’s always a busy time of year for those of us who work or volunteer in the field, and it’s always one of mixed emotions, for many of us. But this year’s event is particularly unnerving to me, bringing a mixture of anxiety and relief. That’s because World AIDS Day is the only socially acceptable time for me to acknowledge, recognize and maybe even grieve the lives of people I knew, and cared about, who were living with H

What hurts me the most

published: December, 27, 2012 Categories // Social Media, Lifestyle, Media, Opinion Pieces

In one of his most popular posts ever, Christopher Banks on what the twitter hashtag #WhatHurtsMeTheMost tells the curious about the human condition

Hashtag trends on Twitter are a bit like an episode of Prisoner: a mixture of pathos, camp, genuine emotion and absolute rubbish. When I saw #WhatHurtsMeTheMost trending in Australia last night, I had to click to see what people were saying.  What interested me was how many times the same themes recurred.  Here are five that stirred something in me. #WhatHurtsMeTheMost when someone makes you feel so so so special, but turns out they’re like that with everyone else I was talking with fri