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Roberto Alomar: is he still playing games?

Wednesday, 13 October 2010 Author // Bob Leahy - Editor Categories // Arts and Entertainment, Opinion Pieces, Bob Leahy

I’m no sports fan, but when an iconic baseball player, an ex-Toronto Blue Jay no less, is accused of doing the nasty nastily, I’m all ears. You too?

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Now it hasn’t been proven that Roberto Alomar is HIV-positive; in the story that follows, his lawyer has declined to comment.  Wouldn’t it do all of us a favour though, if Alomar came out one way or another?  In the past, talking specifically about AIDS, he has said that he doesn’t have ”that disease”.  Nor do I Roberto, but the obvious question is - are you HIV-positive?   That hasn’t been answered.

Everyone has a right to privacy.   I take the position though that if one is positive, it’s better for all concerned that one admits to it. There are, after all, opportunities for all of us help put an end to the (HIV) stigma that affects us all.  Magic Johnson did it way back when, Greg Louganis too.  Many of us regular folks have done it too. Anyway, here’s the story verbatim, as reported in the New York Post.

 Wife Claims Baseball Star Hid HIV for Unprotected Sex

“Another woman has come forward accusing former baseball great Roberto Alomar of having unprotected sex with her even though he’s HIV-positive - and this time it’s his wife.

In papers filed in a Florida divorce court, Maria Del Pilar Maripily Rivera Alomar, 33, says the former Orioles great “intentionally with corrupt intent, concealed from (her) his physical condition” in order to have unprotected sex with him.

Alomar, 42, knew prior to his first sexual contact with (her) that he was HIV-positive” but not only did he not tell Rivera about his condition, he outright lied to her, assuring her “he had been tested for sexually transmitted diseases and the tests were negative”, the explosive filing says.

The wife’s charges are similar to claims against Alomar in a lawsuit by a former girlfriend named Ilya Dall, last year.  Dall claimed Alomar had full-blown AIDS, but had encouraged her to keep having unprotected sex with him.  Alomar’s lawyer called the Dall suit “baseless” and the case settled last May.  One of his staunchest defenders at the time was (his wife), a well-known sex symbol in Puerto Rico who has been described as the territory’s own Paris Hilton.  She went to bat publically for him, calling Dall’s tale “a vile lie” and “not true.”

Prior to their marriage in 2009, the suit says, Alomar assured the chesty chica “he had been tested for sexually transmitted diseases and the tests were negative”.  At some point after their wedding, she discovered that wasn’t true, the filing says.  . . . She “has not contracted the virus to date but uncertainty still exists due to the delay in the onset of the virus.”

Lawyers for the Alomars did not return calls for comment.

Rivera’s filing says she wouldn’t have agreed to marry him if she had known of “his true physical condition.”

In an interview with The Post last year, Alomar denied having AIDS saying “I don’t talk about my personal life but I don’t have that disease.”  He also said he would not have gotten married if he did.  “I would never do that to another person.”

I don’t know; this whole story strikes me as being laced with stigmatising statements.  Or am I being too sensitive  here, seeing stigma where it perhaps doesn’t exist?”   You be the judge.

About the Author

Bob Leahy - Editor

Bob Leahy - Editor

Award-winning blogger Bob Leahy first made his social media mark a decade ago on LiveJournal.com where there are still to this day almost 3,000 entries of his available to be read. He was a featured blogger on Ontario’s HIVStigma.com campaign, along with PositiveLite.com founder Brian Finch. He joined PositiveLite.com at its inception in 2009 and became it's Editor a year later.

Born in the UK, Bob’s background is in corporate banking, which he gladly left in 1994, after being diagnosed with HIV the previous year.  He has chaired the board of PARN (Peterborough AIDS Resource Network) and has been an executive board member of both the Ontario HIV Treatment Network (OHTN) and the Canadian AIDS Society (CAS).  He was inducted in to the Ontario AIDS Network’s Honour Roll in 2005.  Bob is currently a member of Ontario’s GMSH (Gay Men’s Sexual Health Alliance). He also writes for TheBody.com.

In 2012, Bob was honoured with the Queen Elizabeth II Diamond Jubilee medal for his work and commitment to HIV/AIDS in Canada.

Bob continues to write for this site while in the Positivelite.Com editor’s seat, with a particular interest  in HIV prevention, theatre and the arts in general. He is accredited media for a number of Toronto theatres. He lives in Warkworth, Ontario with his partner of thirty-two years and three dogs.

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